Is it wrong not to want a bachelor or a bachelorette(sp?) party?

My husband and I didn't have one and didn't WANT one. There's nothing wrong with that. There are so many couples who just don't want to do that kind of thing. It's going to be your life and your wedding. You make the most of it and do what you want. Congrats, by the way.

You do not have to have the "traditional" type of stag/hen do that some people have, strippers etc, you can do it differently, it's not the rules that you all have to go out and get bladdered! If you want a joint hen and stag do then that's fine, loads of people do that, or you could take your girl friends to a spa or something. My hubby went paint balling and I went to see a gig with one other friend, that was it, not a stripper or "game" in sight.

wow! did you write this for me? I am in the EXACT situation. My fiance's BM is totally someone who would get a stripper, get my fiance drunk (horribly drunk) and probably not even think of finding a designated driver. we really arent the partying type either. I want a Jack and Jill party, and besides, he has a few female friends that I wouldnt want to leave out of the fun, but they are not that close to me. I think we are still doing a bachelorette/bachelor party though since my parents are divorced and both remarried and my step mom wants to have a shower then a bachelorette party for me (she is even invited, I am 22) then my mom is going to have our Jack and Jill party for us. I just hope that the guys can keep it together at their thing.

No, its not wrong at all if you really know that you and your "man" wont enjoy the party by yourselves have it together. i went to a party where the bachelor and the bachelorette had the party together. it actually turned out more fun. just ask your "MAN" what he thinks. if the thinks the same as you just go for it!

You could have a HAG party (Stag & Hen party) where you and your guy go off for a night with their friends and arrange to meet later on in the evening at a particular bar or restaurant.

We went roller skating for mine and I am 30! It was great. My fiance wanted a traditional party so that's what he got. To each it's own. If you and your soon to be hubby don't want a traditional party then let your friends and family know it! I am in a wedding now and i think we are going wine tasting instead!

My wife and I didn't have one because neither of us wanted one, elder son had a family and friends get together that was much more civilised than some of the parties I have heard about. No, you're not too old and cynical - I would say mature & sensible

im with you on this! its definately an issue of personal preference but i am planning a tasteful dinner party and some drinks with close friends...i cant wait to be married and i know these hen parties are traditional its not what i want, i've seen too many crowds of drunk women in tacky pink outfits and its not attractive!

I agree with you. I hate sitting in the pub and then a gaggle of girls come in, banging a wooden spoon on a potty wanting a kiss for the bride. Or the stag parties, when normally polite guys turn into sleazy morons. You're not exactly going to cheat on your other half when out so I think that a joint night out is a nice idea. I've been on two hen nights and they were awful!