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How To Get Him To Propose?

How doI get my live- in boyfriend to propose?

  • We've been together 8 years and living together for 6 of those years. We work together and love each other. How can I get him to propose?

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    Your in a tough situation. Never give an ultimatum and I recommend one final conversation explaining your needs. Never confrontational and try to keep the emotion You have to be ready to leave so if you are not then save this for when you are. If you are not ready to leave this situation I would get help to find out why. What is keeping you there? Sometimes it is the fear of the unknown. You may have also not communicated to him that in order for you to be with him he has to make the committment. Hinting around will not help the situation. I would say if you are ready to leave...noone can decide but you. Say to him. "HOney, I wanted to talk to you about something that is really bothering me. I am upset that we don't have a committment in what I see as marriage. I need to know that the man I am with honors me and believes in us. I can no longer stay in a relationship that doesn't lead towill not lead to marriage. I am ready to start over. Marriage is important to me and I need it to stay in a long term relationship. We should figure out what to do to move on from this apartment and such. Calmly leave. Don't get into a huge discussion about why he should marry you and why life would be so much better for the both of you if he maried you. You can never convince him he has to come to that conclusion himself. Good luck and best wishes. I know this is hard but if you don't face up to it now you will grow angrier over time and resentful.

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WHY BUY THE COW ,WHEN YOUR GETTING THE MILK FOR FREE? IF HE HASN'T ASKED BY NOW,HE PROBABLY NEVER WILL.

PEACHES

you can't I'm not trying to be rude but u can't force a person to propose it has to be when their ready to ask.

drkchocolatedeluxe

You can't get him to propose. Why would you want to marry someone who you have to "get to propose to you?"

His Angel

That's a tough one sis, as you basically have a common law marriage and would be recognized as such by the courts. You could try to broach the topic with and tell him up front that you want to get married, but finding a way to get him to propose doesn't sound terribly realistic at this point in your relationship, if he hasn't done so already. Is there a specific reason you need a marriage contract? I have seen couples in the past who did this after having a long term common law relationship break up in the first year of their relationship, and it seemed to me that they got married because the relationship was actually falling apart, and got married to stave off the break-up that they feared was coming.....it doesn't work that way. I think that you should search deeply why you have this urge to "marry" after all this time, and try to figure out what it is you are missing that you think that will get better with a marriage contract.

Crowfeather

Why don't you propose? He has no reason to do it now. He is happy with the status quo. Just do it yourself ans see what happens.

yo momma

I beg you, do not get pregnant. Not only is that manipulative, but it is completely unfair to the child. If you try to force a person into mirrage, believe me it will backfire. I have a friend who got pregnant on purpose to try to trap her live in boyfriend into mirrage and it worked. However, the only one trapped in the end was her. Three kids later he cheated on her in while she was asleep in the same room. She had no job, hadn't worked in several years because she was so busy raising their kids. She stayed in the mirrage way longer than she wanted to because she felt trapped. She finally did leave him and she is now sharing a 2 bedroom apartment with her brother and her 3 kids. If that doesn't convince you not to "trap" him into mirrage, I don't know what will.

Goddess

i AGREE WITH SEVERAL PEOPLE HERE. yOU CANNOT FORCE HIM TO ASK YOU AND IF YOU HAVE TO FORCE HIM, DO YOU REALLY WANT HIM TO??? hE SHOULD WANT TO PROPOSE AND BE HOPEFUL THAT YOU WILL SAY YES!!!! IF THAT IS NOT THE CASE, ASK HIM STRAIGHT OUT IF HE IS THINKING OF MARRIAGE AND IF HE SAYS NO, DO SOME THINKING ABOUT WHETHER YOU WANT TO HANG AROUND WITH HIM OR FIND THE MAN WHO WOULD WANT TO MARRY YOU FOREVER!!!

kathy41449

Kick him out...that's what my husband says. My Dad gave my husband my Mother's ring....enough said...my husband proposed a couple weeks later...we were living together at the time.

X Ray Tech and Mother

why get married? You made a choice 6 years ago to skip the marriage part. Why would a ring and a piece of paper that says you're married make anything different? Besides, making/getting someone to do something he obviously doesn't want to do would not be a good "start" to the "marriage"

Millie

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