Pictures on my email are now gone?

My BF got a hold of my email, FB and bank acct password. He's been monitoring my activities for over a year.?

• He came across an exchange of emails between me and an old friend. I had just gotten my new iphone and an old friend of mine found out and text me applications to download and things I can do with my new phone. So he was texting me for a couple of days and emailed me requesting a picture so he can add to his phone contacts. Anyway, I sent him a picture of me in my mad hatter halloween costume. My BF now is accusing me of having interest in him. I tried to assure him that if I was interested, then I would've gone out with him 5 yrs ago when I was still single. Anyway, this guy is not my ex, we just went out to dinner once which was 5 yrs ago and he's not even my type!!! In fact, I tried setting him up with some of my friends. Now my BF of 2 1/2 yrs wants to break up because I lied about it. The reason why I lied to him was because he's very jealous and insecure and I know that no matter what I say, he will not believe me. That email was 3 months ago and I haven't communicated with him since. We did not even have any phone conversation what so ever. It was only a few txt about my iphone. My BF knows there were no exchange of phone calls because he had access to my Sprint account and he's been monitoring it for over a yr. I'm in love with my BF and he's just too stubborn to let it go. If I wanted to send him a sexy picture of myself, it would've been my lingerie or bikini outfit. I don't want to break up because of this, there is absolutely nothing going on with my friend. He also has a GF and we've remained friends all these years. I really don't even care to stay friends with him if this is what it takes for my BF to forgive me for lying. I regret send the pictures and didn't think anything of it back then. How can I make my BF understand and earn his trust. I even offered to give him back my passwords to all my accounts just to prove I have nothing to hide. Now he started going out without me and lying about it. He went out dancing last week without telling me and we got into an argument and broke up. He said he only loves me as a friend now. We were both angry and upset that we might have said things we didn't mean because the day before, he was asking me to go on vacation with him. So how can he ask me to go on vacation with him and then the next day say he only loves me as a friend after the argument? Since things ended badly, I'm not really sure if he meant what he said or just out of anger. I'm thinking of paying him a visit and try to talk some sense into him or get some closure. IF indeed he meant what he said, then I will move on and leave him alone. But I still love him and I don't want to throw away 2 1/2 yrs for just a little lie when there's nothing going on between my friend and I. To be honest, I haven't even seen my friend for over 3 1/2 yrs now. Will I be doing the right thing my making the first move and try to salvage this relationship? I know he will never make the first move and make up with me. Is it too soon? But I'm afraid if I wait longer, he will get used to me not being around and like the single life and forget about me.

• Answer:

  your guy is a control freak, and it will only get worse as the relationship progresses leave him alone you deserve better here is some advice i received (some i took & some i did not), not in any particular order: - always treat people the way you would like to be treated - when a door closes, a window opens - this life you are living now is not a dress rehearsal - you have the ability to control your life - only you – no one else - don't look at the superficial essence of people - look inside of their soul - if you have to sign a legal document – take it home & review it overnight. preferably, see an attorney to protect your interests. remember, if it seems too good to be true – it probably is ! - don’t let people be bullied & don’t be a bully - every time you make love to someone, you give a piece of yourself away. you don't have too many pieces inside of you to give away – so be selective - find the path to your own happiness - you are in charge of your own happiness - you are responsible for how you get out of bed every day & how you plan your day - do volunteer work - it enriches the soul & lets you see how other people live their lives & survive their day to day existence - go to the library - when someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment & thoughts of revenge — or embrace forgiveness & move forward. forgiveness frees your soul - when you get a job ? save something from each & every paycheck you get – even if it is a dollar – it helps you plan for your future & sets up good habits for savings right from the beginning of your working career ! place this money in an interest bearing account - don't watch tv too much - it fries your brain & can encourage laziness - don’t use profanity. it is a show of disrespect for yourself & those around you. there are millions of words out there – use them to express yourself ! - challenge yourself – don’t always take the easiest choice given to you or travel a path preferred by others – take chances - make yourself do something different once in a while - learn something new every day - in order to give & receive love, you have to love yourself first - make loving yourself a priority in your life ! - drink v8 juice - brush & floss your teeth at least two times per day - drink lots of water – stay away from soda pop - go to the library or book store – read ! - go for walks - sometimes, when you can’t smile ? force yourself to – it encourages your inner psyche to survive the “blues” that come over everyone of us, from time to time - keep a journal - listen to music – it keeps you connected to your inner soul & to the universe – all of which are very important to survive on this planet - always strive for a better education - encourage people around you – especially strangers - remember, we are all created equal – g*d does not make mistakes - never, ever give in or give up peace ☮†♂☺♥☻♀†☮