How Can I Ask Someone to marry me. i am scared to do ? i would waite for him to ask me. but i love him to much

• How can i ask someone to marry me. i love him so much it been two years. but i am scared. sometimes i even scared to say what i really want to say to him. it like i loose my words around him. it like i just shake when he next to me. i know it love there cuss we both feel it and it very strong. what should i do

• Answer:

  If you have been together for two years, but you cannot communicate openly with him yet because you're too nervous/shaky, then you are definitely not ready to marry this person. It's okay to still get some butterflies in your stomach when you're with him if you're really that happy to be with him, but nervousness should not be part of it. You should feel comfortable and relaxed around each other - like you could talk about anything. Marriage is for a lifetime - you need to know that you're marrying a person that shares in the things that you want out of life and know that whatever comes your way, you can work through it. If most of the time, you are scared to even say what you want to say to him, then what makes you think that it would be a good idea to marry him? I've been all "googly", so to speak, over a number people that would have honestly not been good marriage candidates. The "love" that you're feeling for him now is still in the infant stage - everything is new and wonderful and sweet and amazing. Wait and see if you two are together long enough for the love to mature into something solid. When the two of you have seen ALL of each other's bad habits, seen each other at your worst of times, gone through some rough times together, and you're both stronger for having done these things, then maybe, and only maybe, you might be ready to marry this guy. After you know, and know well, all of his faults, flaws, etc. and he knows yours, and you still love each other, then maybe you can consider the idea of marriage. Do you get what I'm saying? Marriage isn't a romantic dance to a sweet love song - it's a lifetime commitment of dedication, devotion, honesty, integrity, and hard work - love is the motivation for those things. You have to love someone enough to know that if they get ill or injured and can no longer work, have sex, or do things as simple as feeding themselves or giving you a hug, that you will stand by them. And you need to know that they love you enough that they would stand by you in such circumstances. After you have thought long and hard about all of this, and after the two of you have developed a deep, comfortable love... then by all means, go for it.