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Why are bridesmaids expected to pay for their dresses?

Do u believe bridesmaids should pay for their OWN dresses?

  • I don't believe bridesmaids should have to pay for their own dress, unless their is special circumstances(like they lost their job, financial burden etc). I feel that if u ask someone who originally didn't ask to be a bridesmaid then you, the bride to be, should pay for the dress. It's only right. I can understand if someone insisted that they want to be your bridesmaid and you didn't want them to be or ask them then maybe they should pay for their own dress. I just wanted to hear some thoughts on the matter. Maybe i am missing something.

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    In the US they pay for their own dresses, in the UK the couple pays for the dresses. It's a matter of culture. In this day and age, bridesmaids in the US KNOW they are expected to pay for themselves, and if they can't afford it or don't want to, they should just politely decline and attend the wedding as a guest. It's an honor to be part of the wedding party, and incurring the cost has nothing to do with it. Besides, if the bride and groom had to pay for all the outfits wouldn't they be less likely to even ask as many people, because of budget constraints? People WANT to be in wedding parties, I have hardly ever heard of anyone feeling "forced" to. Plus it's a choice, entirely up to the person. They can choose to or not, and abide by the local custom or not. If you, in particular, would like to purchase your bridesmaids dresses, then go for it! I'm sure they will appreciate it. but to try and call every other person in the US rude for abiding by the norms of the locality is totally ridiculous.

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Who are all these girls saying that the bride should pay?!? They have to be young kids who have no idea about real weddings and their ettiquete! My wife will be a bridesmaid in 5 weddings this year - she's paying for all of the dresses. I work in the wedding industry and have never heard of brides paying for the bridesmaid dresses. This is the normal situation - everyone knows this! Just like the groomsmen pay for their tuxedos and MOB and MOG pay for their own dress. If a bridesmaid is financially strapped and doesn't have the resources to pay, they kindly inform the bride thank you for the offer but I can't do it. They don't ask the bride to pay and the bride would never offer to pay. The bridesmaids are the best friends of the bride - it's not ridiculous for them to buy a dress to celebrate the brides day.

a_koerper

No, I definitely wouldn't make them pay. They're my bridesmaids and if anything, I look at these dresses as small gifts for being such good friends.

Vi.

Sorry, but you have to pay unless the bride offers to pay for it. Thats just what etiquette dictates if you in north america. You will have your turn to tell her what to where if she is one of yours some day. If you can't afford it, just say no to being a bridesmaid. Its better than saying yes and being rude to the bride because your cheap or can't afford it. P.S your Analogy sucks

Mug R

Absolutely not. if it's their wedding, then they should pay. otherwise, they shouldn't of asked you to be a bridesmaid.

Alexandra.

The custom in America is the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses. In the UK, the custom is that the bride pays for the bridesmaid dresses. Either way, the dresses should not be exorbitantly expensive. A bride or a bridesmaid should not break the bank to buy these gowns. It is an honor to stand up for your best friend no matter who pays for the dress. Also, the friend should respectively decline the offer to be a bridesmaid if she can not invest both the time and money that the role requires.

prolly

No, I dont think you should have to buy your own dress. It's their own wedding, so they should take the responsibilty of buying the dress. If they can't afford it, then they shouldn't of asked you to be their bridesmaid. Thats my opinion!

<3Sweetheart<3

Tell her you would like to do it, but the cost of dress is a problem. Either she offers to "help" (which she won't) or you then say i would like to attend as a guest if that is OK

The Iron Sheik

yes

Hostile Amish Hooter

ummm no, then you might end up not having bridesmaids if you do that

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