How can I be more outgoing?

How can i be more outgoing?

• im really shy with new people. i feel uncomtable making eye contact with some people but i can do it. My sisters are both really outgoing and have no problem making conversation with total strangers when i have a problem like ordering food alone. i dont trust people. my childhood although im only 16 wasnt that good and i was chased once on a curise when i was young by three boys with my friend. it wasnt a joke matter. we ran from the bottem floor to the top. thats alot of stairs that we got tired and stoped at one level where we got seperated in the confusing hallways.they were taunting us and i thought they were going to do stuff to me. we then found each oher and got away. i also have depression issues. but how can i be outgoing? i want to be able to make new friends instead im the one in class alone whos known as the one who doesnt really talk. i mean i can talk to people and ask them stuff its just really hard. i tend to stick to my closest friends who are outgoing and im still not. i get depressed sometimes cause im not outgoing and my mom and family makes me feel like i have to be

• Answer:

  If you want to be more outgoing, you have to challenge yourself. Start out small, just compliment someone's sweater. The worst that could happen from a compliment is like nothing. Try smiling at people when you make eye contact. You've got to start out small, and then when you get the hang of it it will be easy. Always keep yourself in check by making sure that when you do talk that your voice is loud and not shaky. Remember that most people are shy and just like you, they want to talk, but they just can't bring themselves to it. Try starting conversations by first talking about yourself, and then asking questions. Like "oh wow, this is expensive for nail polish altho i do like the color," Just make small talk. You don't have to be outgoing, but if you get scared when you have to talk, in can get in the way of what you want to do with your life.