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Why is bullying so popular at school and is there something we can do?

How to deal with bullying and NOT being accepted?

  • If you read a lot of my questions, they pertain to bullying...I've been down every road. Be it a 5 year depression, paranoid thoughts, severe anxiety, to plotting to shoot up my own school..But I've solved all those problems...I'm not depressed anymore, or angry enough to shoot up a school. All my life I've been bullied, and I'm a really sweet guy..Really..I used to act mean, just to scare people away because all they'd do is bully me..I'm very quiet, and I do my own thing..I never even wanted to be in school, I wanted to be homeschooled but my parents want me to 'socialize'. My parent's are very busy people, and because of that..My whole life, I've basically been on my own..Everything is my responsibility, I do my own thing, stay out late however late I want, you know..I'm independent, I'm a free spirit! I live in a city where most of the kids here do drugs, and get wasted on Alcohol and spend every weekend with a different girl..Drunk orgies..And, I don't fit in because I'm not into that.Although I'm 16, I'm not mature looking like they are..I can only lift like..30 to 50 pounds, and I'm not at all ashamed of it.. Here's the problem..I'm a quiet kid, and I'm quiet because people are mean..They discourage me from talking to them..The girls at this school think I'm mentally retarded, and they're spreading rumors that I'm a rapist or a stalker..And it gets on my nerves because its turning everyone against me.. I try making friends, I really do..But everytime I talk to people, they ask "Dude, whose talking to you? Who asked you to speak?"..And then they mock me, saying "Nobody likes him, haha! I wouldn't let him near my kids".. I've come a long way from someone who doesn't know he is, to someone who hates the world, and wants to kill everyone, to someone who just wants to help the world, and teach people that life doesn't suck. If I ever acted mean, or scary, it's a cover up..Because I'm so sick of being chastised..I'm so sad..I don't have depression anymore, and trust me..There's a large difference between depression and sadness...Depression is dull, but sadness is when you get that certain crushing feeling in your chest..You know, like before most people shed tears or something.. I have hobbies! I write poetry, I have an obsession for music, I'm doing volunteer work for animals, I'm getting a job..I don't know what else to do! Look, I'm not going to another shrink. I mean, you have to assume that from above, I've already been to a dozen..And all they wanted was for me to be put on anti depressants.. Since I just got out of my depression and found out who I really was a few months ago, I'm my old self again.. But that also means that, because I've been bullied so much, I have a lot of mischievous impulses..They're just impulses now, but I'm afraid I might actually do something..And it's nothing that would harm a person, physically..I've accepted the act that I can't hurt anyone, and that I don't believe in violence..My parents know everything..They've switched me from school to school..But this is my last school.. There's this girl, and she was the one who told everyone I was a stalker..I have connections, people I get along with that hear her talk, and they've told me a lot of her secrets..I really don't wanna do this, but I'm thinking of blackmailing her..But instead of blackmailing, I'd exploit her dirty secrets to the whole school anyways..But I know revenge isn't the way to go.. My only friend doesn't help me..He's too busy with his own popular life..And sometimes, I get the feeling that he's just using me to score women, since I'm the "deranged retarded kid" in this school..So the women will think "Hey, this guy must be a really sweet person for hanging out with that weird kid!" Despite all my hobbies, I feel so lonely..So I'm not a city kid who tries his luck getting laid every week, so what? Why won't they just leave me alone, and accept me? For gods sakes, I even think the teachers believe these kids..What am I supposed to do? It's gotten to a point where I come angry, and..The only time I'm happy is when I'm listening to music, or causing trouble.. Jesus Christ, I'm even bullying people online..My life doesn't suck, but..I just think it's been a little more hard then it should be. At least people aren't beating me up anymore.. But really, all this abuse is having an effect on me..Such an effect that I get a kick out of scaring people, and making them feel miserable..I just found out who I am now after a 5 year long depression, and I'm not going to let the real me turn into a bully. Hell, I don't even care if people I know read this.. My name is Gabriel, and I

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    Sounds to be that you need to look towards the future when you can move out of the area you live in and into a better area. Maybe go boarding, or into a flat with other flatmates with the same interests as yourself. If it doesn't work out you can always move home. Just believe in yourself and be your own best friend. Here are some websites that will be of help to you: http://www.childline.org.uk http://www.suicidehotlines.com http://www.socialanxietysupport.com http://www.dbsalliance.org http://www.depressiondodging.com http://www.counsellingresource.com http://www2.mcdaniel.edu/slm/student/crossleyk/bullies.htm http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Bullies http://www.kidshealth.org/kid/grow/school_stuff/bullies.html http://www.whoyouwant2be.org/help/

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your only 16 kid and you think that this is such a big deal. why dont you start drinking and smoking pot you make friends mad quick. when you goto college what are you gonna do sit around all day until you do shoot up the school. you've prolly never even held a gun up to someone before. wait till your brain starts realizing how people work and then youll realize what you need to do.

smashaholic

I feel so sorry for your situation but try to find help to those that are specialists for that or a psychiatrists, I must say.

Lijeke

Well I could only say that when people treat you in a nasty way, it only reflect back on themselves, not you. Everyone has the right to exists on this world, no questions ask. Sounds like you have an self-esteem issue. Try reading "The Six pillars of self esteem" by Nathaniel Branden. Inside there are self help guide and workout that enable you to improve your own self esteem. Very great book and it had changed many lives, including mine. Why not take a look at it. You don't have to buy it, just borrow from your local library.

ill say it: i feel so sorry for u. anybody who bullys are barstards. the thing is, dont make friends with barstards. anybody who tells u "who gave u pemission to speak" is an idiot. just say its a free country. look around you. is there anybody else who is being left out? if u think "im not sinking that low" then u r as bad as the bullies. i hate bullies. i was bullied in primary school for no good reason. i had few friends. u have to approach those who maybe dont pick on you. there the awesome people 25/4/10 o mi gosh! u cant be the only one left out! surely theres somebody else that is not accepted by the cruel society of today! DO NOT SUICIDE!!!!!!!! DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH ACOHOLE OR DRUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i swear if u suicide i will 2 so dont even think about it. look, if you need somebody to talk to, contact me at [email protected] ok, there must be some people, who hav maybe teased you once or twice but dont seem to want to, only teasing you so they dont get teased themselves? if there are some people like that then try and get to know them. if any bullies say your different, it usually means there putting you down to make themselves feel better. ok, here is the deal. perhaps you should move schools. i know your in a very important year rite now but its not to late. if you wait longer it will get harder. try and convince your parents to get you to move schools. a fresh start would help.

twilightisawesome

Well this time of you life isn't good obviously. I feel though that things will turn around for you in your twenties. I know a lot of people at your age are just so immature and fickle. I know one thing that may help you is writing. I get the feeling that even when writing this you were starting to feel more relief. I could be wrong though. But I recommend you keep on writing, even if it's just a journal you share with no one else.

John D.

Dang dude **** those people they only treat people like **** just to fit in. Always be your self man never try to be like those fake people that lie just to get more friends screw that! Never get into drugs its plain just retarded waste of time and damages ur body. All i suggest is just do what ur doing people will eventually accept you for who you are. Just dont try to act weird around people be more social trust me just talk to people they really dont mind, have a conversation! goes a long way!

danny z

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