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DEPRESSION DUE TO MY BREAKUP. ITS BEEN 6 MONTHS SINCE MY GF DUMPED ME FOR NO REASON. SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP?

  • My GF dumped me abt 6 months bak apparently for no reason and I am still not yet over her. We wer going around for almost two months out of which 1 month in our home town and the other a long distance realn. Till date I still miss her badly and sometimes still cry, I cant help it I still do love her. Sometimes it gets difficult with these thoughts of hers its like I cant bear it anymore. While breaking up she was very rude to me and she broke up for stupid reasons that I am younger than her (she is older than me by 2 years) and also that I cried quite a few time before she was leaving for her higher studies abroad. I don’t know what to do but I gave up my habit of smoking, I have reduced my alcohol intake also. I was on antidepressants but thaey dint help at all neither did counseling. I wish to express my feelings to my Ex GF but I really doubt if she will even respect those feelings, I guess she will again insult me for no reason. I need some help some kind of emotional help badly evry single day is getting tougher & tougher. PLZ HELP. I also wana know did I do a mistake by crying a few times in front of her??? Those tears were of love and I was crying as I realy truly love her and because she was goin for 2 years to study abroad. I cant even talk to my friends coz all just say MOVE ON. If moving on was easy then things wud have been very different. PLZ PLZ PLZ PLZ HELP. I BEG FOR HELP. Ive tried everything like keeping myself busy, a new hobby including antidepressants etc etc bt nothin seems to work. PLZ ANYONE HELP PLEASE I BEG FOR HELP I CANT BEAR THIS PAIN ANYMORE. During my breakup I went through other issues in my life which made it even more difficult. HELP.

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    Sorry to hear about that man. A few years ago I went though much the same thing. I was with her for a few months and was incredibly in love with her but she went home over the uni holidays and she called and broke up with me after about a month apart. Six months later it seemed like I'd made no progress towards getting over her whatsoever. In that six months I pretty much gave up on everything, uni, work, friends, life... everything and anti-depressants did nothing. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but the only thing that's going to cure your broken heart is time. Although by now your friends are undoubtedly sick of hearing you talk about her, they're right in saying that you need to get over her and move on, but as I said, that's going to take time. And sadly, there isn't much you can do to speed things up. You should not hold out hope that you're going to get back together or that expressing your feelings to her is going to help your cause. From the sound of it, the chances of you getting back together with her are very small, and holding out hope for such things is only going to make your heartache worse and make moving on take a hell of a long longer. As time goes by you'll think of her less and less and get on with your life. Even if you did get back together, all would seem fine at first but the relationship wouldn't be the same as it was. You'll start to resent her for the 6 months of pain and misery she put you though, and there's nothing to say she won't do it again. For me, after about six months I met a girl that I was really into; a girl that made me feel much the same way that my ex did. She wasn't quite as good in my eyes as my ex but she still made me feel better about myself. It was as if the void I had been feeling for the last 6 months was being refilled and I gradually got my life back on track and started feeling good again because once again I had someone in my life that made me feel good about myself. So finding someone else to fill that void is my best advice for you. HOWEVER, don't make the same mistake I did and talk about your ex too much with your new girl. As you're getting close to someone new, you're going to feel like you can open up and express the way you're been feeling over the last few months, but take my word for it that it's not going to help your cause. You're far better off finding a good friend or, hell, even a counselor to talk those things out with. I feel it's also important to note that you're going to treat any new relationships a little differently from now on. Weather you realize it or not, being hurt so badly is going to make you a little more stand-off-ish in your future relationships and less likely to get as attached as easily. It's a means of self preservation. From one rocker to another, I hope I helped.

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She seemed not to give you any closure and that is why you are finding it hard to move on. Why would you want to be with her if she treated you so bad during the break up. Only time can heal a broken heart. Get rid of any memories you have of her it will help the healing process. Your buddies are giving you good advice. Get involved in other activities to keep your mind busy.

lconnor65

Hey, forget her. When people have preexisting conditions like depression or self esteem issues, sometimes they subconsciously seek out people that hurt them. You won't find your answers in her, I'm willing to bet. It doesn't matter what you say to her, because she doesn't care. And the sooner you realize that, the better you will feel. 1. Stop drinking. 2. Start taking antidepressants, and stick with them even if you don't feel a change. it takes a while for serotonin levels to rise. 3. Exercise. Run till you legs stop working. Let your self loathing and rage fuel you and pump iron, run, or do something constructive. 4. Go outside, get sunlight. 5. See a shrink, stick with it. Don't expect a quick fix. Whatever you do, don't expect to feel better in 2 hours or one day or whatever. It will take at least two weeks before you notice major improvement. If you say you have no energy and don't feel like doing it, then don't. But think about it, do you want to destroy your life over that *****? That would be a lame way to go, don't you think.

Gokiburi

Ahh /: I too had this problem. It may seem like HELL. But in time the heartache will stop, and you'll find someone new. Who really loves you. You sound like a really caring guy, any girl would be lucky to have you. I understand that the concept of moving on is almost impossible to get through your head right now.. but theyre right. Go out there and find yourself a great girl that loves you for you

soccerchicka

It sounds like you were a lot more emotionaly invested in the relationship that she was, 2 months is not really a long time, speaking from experience I once date a guy for about 3 months and I remember that on our second date he told me that he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and he couldn't picture his life without me, that kind of talke honestly freaked me out completely!! I wanted to get out of there SO fast!! the only reason I stayed with him that long was because I was afrade he would kill himself if I left and I didn't want that kind of burden on my shoulders, so I broke up with him just like your ex did, I wanted him to hate me so bad that he would never even think of getting back with me again AND I've also been in your position (the one getting dumped!!) So I know how u feel as well......having said that, you need to realize that you Don't Love Her, and the only way you can get over her is to just put her out of your mind or just focus on all the mean things she did or said to you, and instead of crying about it get really angry and every morning when you get up tell yourself that your going to find a great girl that's going to LOVE and appreciate you for who you are and will NOT try to change you.......it's going to take a while!! especially if you felt that strongly about her......just give it time, move on with your life as if she was never in it and after a while you'll see that you could care less about her!!

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