What is the best cure for stress and depression?

Am I suffering a nervous breakdown & what would you do to cure it?

• Shortly before I went out on disability from work four weeks ago, I wasn't able to work at all, all I was doing was making mistakes & I wound up being frozen, not able to do anything. So, I went into an outpatient alcohol rehab program for four weeks. I was an alcoholic who drank a bottle of wine a night, but this didn't make me drunk, it only got me buzzed. I never drank on the job or before work. I now am 33 days sober, but instead of being addicted to alcohol, I'm now addicted to this guy in rehab who doesn't reciprocate my affections. He said we're just friends. I can't stop thinking about him. Because of this and because of depression, I can't function. I haven't been able to pay my bills or clean in the past few days. I have nothing to look forward to. I got written up at work while I was out on disability & am in danger of being fired. I know that I won't be able to function at work. What should I do? What can cure this problem? Should I go out on stress from work? Thx.

• Answer:

  I can't believe I was the first to answer the mental community is actually really good here,That's OK though You got me and I'll do my best to help you,since this is one of the things I am replacing alcohol with.I'm first want to congratulate you on 33 days sober,it might not sound like a big deal some but when I first started trying o get sober It took over a year to piece that long together and i was really trying.Are you aware that alcohol and this new infatuation (even though it's unrequited) is just symptoms of what your real issue is.This things are what you have put in place to keep you from having to deal with the other things that subconsciously you are to afraid to address.YOU ARE NOT ALONE.Almost Everyone in the world is dealing with same pattern's of negative dealing with our life situations.What I mean is we all use different substance whether it's gambling T.V.,Drugs,,overeating or even Sex( A Fav,haha,sorry) some people are workaholics.So we all have are issues ( I don't like the word Problems because when you hear the word it always makes you think of something negatively,I prefer situation or issue)Anyways I know right now it seems like you are on a progressive downward slide that seems hard to dig yourself out of.I believe that once you start realizing that You have the control to pull yourself out of this emotional turmoil that your mind is happy to let yourself live in.I am sorry to hear that you have had an emotional and trying time,I can relate how these things have changed your perspective and attitude in life.Yo are letting your mind,which is that little voice control your actions and feelings.Think of this,right now you might feel like you cannot live with yourself.Now think of how strange a thought like that actually is."You" cannot live with"Yourself",There are only one of "You" so the self (The little voice that is bringing all those negative thougts) is not real then you realize that it is just You.The voice is getting power from your attention to it and your negative actions and emotions are feeding it.First when the negative voice comes,just observe it,That is first,Do not judge it as right are wrong just look at it separate yourself from your mind.Then you can see that you are not your thoughts.Then when this voice starts in on you,you will look at it as just a strange thing your mind is doing for attention.You will look at your thoughts and laugh like they are the antics of a child.You will start to use your mind instead of letting your mind (that voice) using you.You can still be whatever you want to be it is Your choice,and since you cannot change the past the only "Sane thing to do is and to accept it and learn from it.Do this wit all things in the past treat your memories of the past like books at library that only serve to you as lessons in life of what to do and not do,but do not let he past define you today.You are not your past you are today and right now you are OK,and you are Love(ED)everyday it will begin to get better around you.But right now it is already better inside you because you know now that you own and control your perspective and no matter what it is you who will ultimately decide on how you feel.You will choose Joy and Love from now on.You will not be a prisoner in your own head any longer.You will Know yourself as Love and share This,Good Bye.and Farewell,You are now on your Journey