Getting rid of my Sharpei after 8 years-advice please?
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My husband and I have had our Chines Sharpei for 8 years. We have had her since she was 8 or 10 weeks old. I'm convinced this dog has mental issues/bipolar and have been in denial all these years. She is out of control and I am at my wits end. We take care of her like our own child we don't have any children). She has pet insurance, up to date on vaccines, and has never been abused. She has always been aggressive. She growls at me and my husnand, snaps at us and has even bitten us a few times over the years (drawing bllod). We have disciplined her for this, like making her go lay down, swatting her with newspaper, yelling no, and have even taken her to training 3 times (3 different people). She does not listen and is very anti-social. Simply put she cannot be trusted. She does not get along with other dogs (she tries to mutilate other dogs and instantly wants to fight any dog, no matter the size). She once got loose and had no problem attempting to fight a Great Dane!!! She barks NONSTOP...all day and all night at the damndest things! things she has ssen for years she still barks at like it's her 1st time seeing them. Most stressful, she barks all night long, keeping me awake. She has been "fixed" and actually had some other feminine issue going on that they vet decided to fix the smae time as her being "fixed". Everyone kept saying she would be so much better and calm after the surgery...YEAH RIGHT! She got worse! The vet stated that after both surgeries she would be in severe pain and gave me pain meds...the dog did not want nor require any pain meds...she was up and running around the house and being mean..her same usual self a day after the surgery! When she does not get her way, she urinates in the house! I feel like I'm giving up on a "bad child", but I can't take it anymore. My husband wants to keep the dog, but I have came close to putting her to sleep a year ago bc of her behavior. She has a dog bed and toys, but she detroys her toys in a matter of minutes and chews her beds to pieces in days. She now sleeps on the floor bc I refuse to keep spending $40 or more on a bed. She sleeps in the same room as hubby and I and always has. My new concern is that I am 4 months pregnant and I feel this dog is to unpredictable around a baby. It's like the dog can sense I am pregnant because she has bc very protective of me and always wants to be around me and lay up under me. I feel this is a recipe for disaster..because I think once baby is here, our dog will be insanely jealous. Plus I won't be able to take dog barking all night waking up baby. I want to get rid of dog now! Yes it will be hard after 8 years, but this dog has done so much to me and put me through so much, I'm starting not to care anymore (sorry). I know she will not do well with any other family, nor do I trust her beahavior with anyone else, so giving her away is not an option, I would put her to sleep. If given away, I feel no one else will put up with her behavior and will abuse her. Prior to this we had a Black Lab for 15 years that we had to put down due to complications with ovarian cancer. I will never get another dog, nor when my child grow up an they have one...they are too much work! Any advice on what is wrong with dog? What would you do? Thanks! BTW, all trainers told me good luck and gave me my money back and my vet says, "its just that breed and I will have to deal with it."
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T-After reading your post the best thing to do for your dog rather than re-homing her, would be to humanely put her to sleep. She has a lot of issues that you yourselves, after a great many attempts, have been unable to correct. It would be unfair to her and to her future new owners. It's also the aggression that concerns me with this breed. If a new owner goes to correct a negative behaviour she may just snap. This is not an easy decision as you and your husband have different opinions-but you have to realize that you have tried everything and you have a baby on the way. I would feel better though if you were doing this out of an act of concern than an act of hate and anger. Good luck with your decision & the baby. It is a hard decision but again I think it is the right thing. Your husband is wrong in believing that the dog will change after the baby arrives. I believe he as well knows it is the right thing to do-but for both of you letting her go after 8 years is hard. You both have obviously loved her emough to put up with her behaviour! But it won't be better after the baby-it may be worse as she is loyal to you and only you. That will not change. There is much truth in the saying "you love something enough to let it go" Try and take comfort in the fact that you did give her a great 8 years and you love her enough to do the right thing. The tears will come but it will get better. Thinking of you.
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Your vet is right, it IS the breed. Sharpeis are known to be aggressive if they are not handled correctly, they take a strong leader. Please do not "give her away", this dog is better suited to be put down. Nobody is going to want an 8 year old aggressive. Sharpeis are not for everyone, and im thinking your mistake was lack of training as a puppy to assert dominance, coupled with this dogs' poor temperament... Recipe for disaster.
Show Breeders Sell Better Pups
I think the kindest thing you can do is have this dog euthanized. No one tends to buy senior dogs in the first place, but an 8 year old dog with behavioural issues is just never going to happen. You should have done more research on this breed to see if it was the right fit for you to begin with - which clearly it isn't.
Aphrodite ☼
The problem with your dog is lack of training and socialization received as a pup You and your husband have caused the behavioral problems Surrender the dog to a rescue organization where people with experience who are actually caring people will work with her and find her a loving home where she is regarded as a family member and not as a hindrance. I am glad that you have no plans on ever getting another pet as who wants you to ruin yet another dog. The key is ......A well trained dog is only as well trained as the owner has been taught to teach ADD::: Taking a pup/dog to a trainer does not mean the trainer does all the work...the owner has to use the methods taught. "I am a good owner and trust me guys, I have been assertive and dominant, but for lack of better words, this dog can get it's a** kicked (disciplined) and it does not phase her!" "swatting her with newspaper, yelling no, and have even taken her to training 3 times (3 different people). " "The vet stated that after both surgeries she would be in severe pain and gave me pain meds...the dog did not want nor require any pain meds" "She has always been disciplined and received punishment for her actions, it;s just that the punishment, no matter what it is, does not bother her." Although I don't think the dog should be around a child, just from your statements I just quoted, you did ruin the dog. I don't think you or your husband understood that training and socialization is a daily event and that a trainer is for the most part their to train you on how to train your dog. The problem with getting training is that you waited too long and were not diligent in her training. Although you think it is a good idea to her her PTS for yourlack of ability to properly train her it would be in her best interest for her to be surrendered and properly evaluated by professionals before you get that injection.
Sheri
If this is how the dog really truly is than I would put the dog down..You can't bring a baby into the house and possibly have the dog maul her/him..If you tried everything in your power and noting worked and she has had a long life than Euthanize..
Nikko,Loves GSD,Pekes
Shar Peis are difficult to train. They are not dumb, but they are not as willing to please as, say, a lab. If you feel you've got it in you to give her another chance, contact a Shar Pei rescue in your area. People in the rescue will know the breed and will likely have a wealth of resources they would be happy to share with you. They will likely be able to recommend a trainer who is familiar with and experienced in working with Shar Peis. If not, you can surrender the dog to a rescue. A rescue will foster the dog and work on training, they'll keep your dog in good health, and home your dog with a suitable family when one comes along. Check this website to start looking for a good rescue. Call around, ask questions. http://www.sharpeirescuenetwork.org/ Good Luck Add - in that case. I'm sorry for your loss, but it does sound like the right choice.
Please don't give her away.If you do,and someone gets hurt,you could be held accountable because you knew she was aggressive. The dog would also be heartbroken if you gave her away. The kindest thing you can do is to have her put down. Take her to McDonald's,buy her a cheeseburger and ice cream,then go and stay with her as the injection is administered and tell her what a good dog she is.
Dances With Woofs!
They are right. It IS the breed. In the wrong hands, they are dangerous. But instead of rehoming this dog, you need to consider putting her down. No rescue or anyone with half a brain is going to take an aggressive dog. I think you should of researched this breed before even considering getting one. This breed clearly was not right for you.
☆☆ Dizzy Shortman ☆☆
Sharpei are no joke.they need a strong hand. And i can see how you are getting overwhelmed by it. But i would not say it is the dogs fault. the kind of dog you got was just a very poor choice for your. and the result is what you have now. So to say that dogs are too much work is not fair to the dog and to EVERY dog. But i am sure you know that. you sound like a dream dog owner for most laid back dog breeds. I am sure a little Spaniel or a mellow lap dog would have the best life on your side. you have not said how much exercise your dog gets. In my experience, the amount of exercise and training a dog gets plays a key role in the behavior he is going to show. Some problems can be practically eliminated by getting the dog seriously tired every day. But it also requires what you would probably call "work". your dog sounds like he is frustrated and he does not have a job or some serious discipline and limitations. the kind of limitations a Sharpei needs to thrive. It is always relative to the dog breed. Maybe you feel that you are doing a lot of discipline and training already, but it may just not show the dog who is the boss. If i were you, i would not experiment with a dog that is a red zone case, awaiting a helpless baby. You need a dog behavior expert. Someone that is specialized in dog aggression, not in obedience training. There is only so much you can do with training. When the dog is too far off the cliff it is a liability. So contact a local dog specialist that knows how to handle those cases. It is maybe too late to make this dog a trustworthy dog. Plus the baby will make your life a lot more stressful, once it is there. and the dog will get less of your energy anyways. There are rescue organisations dedicated to certain breeds. they may also have dealt with more cases that are similar to yours, because they know about the breed. If you decide to give your dog away, at least make sure to give her to a real rescue and not a kill-shelter. In case you decide to work with a behaviorist, i wish you best of luck.
DeeF
Nobody is going to want your dog, and if you take her to the shelter they will just euthanize her instantly because they do temperament testing. Don't you think you would rather be there when your dog is euthanized instead of her at the shelter in a strange place with people she dosent know? I think euthanizing your dog is the right choice for the baby. I would NOT risk it if I was in your situation my baby will come first. Sharpeis are NOT like Pitbulls AT ALL. Pitbulls are not human aggressive in the slightest. If I would compare a Sharpei to any breed it would be the Chow Chow who are known for their difficult personalities.
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