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Is one of the easter baskets more skimpy?

Easter...WWYD. Step child issue.?

  • So my husband and myself both work hard. He has 2 jobs and tries really hard to do his best. Well I got a good check this week so I wanted to make Easter baskets for my step kids. So him and I went out bought baskets and candy..we got little toy type things for his youngest..and mostly put candy and a golden egg with $20.00 in each of the older kids basket. So I bring out their baskets and the 2 oldest (the boys) liked what we did for them..said thanks..I even got a hug from one. The youngest (10) she really was pleased with her basket..hugs all around and said thanks. The 16 yr old girl...took hers looked at it like "what this is all I get?" and walked out. My husband (her father) said to be when we were alone that he was upset she acted that way then I said same thing I started crying because this is not the first time this has happened. Few weeks ago she went with me to the mall and I spent about $50.00 on her and there was no Thanks..just when we got home she got out of the car and walked into her house. The father will be the first to say they are all very spoiled kids..not from him but from his parents. Like last years easter they all got Xbox 360s. (thats 3 total...the youngest didnt get one since she lives with her mother I guess) Christmas last year..they all got laptops..and flat screens as their big gifts..no to mention the other "smaller" ones. My husband and myself cant live up to that..and im just upset that his daughter is being this way. My question is..should I let it go? or am I just being stupid and need to face the face this is how a teen girl is? Advice... Thanks for listening.

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    No, you're not being stupid, spoiled kids like this need to know what's up. We fixed that quick with my nephew. When he was 5 and was mad at Christmas because he didn't get a pro skate board and only got a Wal-Mart one, my brother took it back to the store and made him use the money to buy a gift for the battered women's shelter. Not surprisingly most kids do get it, we as adults just have to teach them. It's parents fault when kids are careless or spoiled. You can give your kids lots of stuff and still teach them to be grateful. I had a lot growing up yet I was always grateful and compassionate to those that had less. I knew how lucky I was and that was because my parents taught me. Hopefully it's not too late for her but you should make her volunteer so she can realize how fortunate she is.

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sit down with the child & her parents to discuss her reaction. if you can mediate this effectively, consider counseling for the family. make a new rule -no gifts from the store. instead, focus on volunteering and kindness within the family.

KitKat

WWID? I would ignore it. She is looking for a confrontation and a reason not to like you, so don't give it to her. Keep doing what you are doing, even for her. No need to try and compete with the grandparents or try to stop them. You're not being stupid or any of that. You're being human and that is okay. Just take the hugs you get and remain who you are. She will come around someday. Best wishes. NoWomanNoCry - you guys are doing what you can and that is all that matters. As a child you don't always appreciate what your parents do for you. But life has a way of making you see it. Myself as a child, I don't remember all the "things" my parents gave me for my birthday, but what I do remember is that every yer she bakes my favorite cake because that comes from a special place. At some point, your step daughter will see it. It may not be this year or next, but it will happen.

Try to talk to her and give her only ONE LAST CHANCE

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