What's "Vast Vale" Means?

He means so much that i dont want to let go....but is that whats best?

• My boyfriend of a year and 8 months broke up a month ago. He said it was because i needed to work on me and make me happy (because i was upset and crying alot, not about him but other things in my life, and i was taking it out on him). He felt no matter what he did he could not make me happy and that was making him miserable. He also said that it just didnt feel the same anymore because of the way we had been. We had a good week two weeks ago and i thought things were falling back into place and he told me that he doesnt want me to get the wrong idea that right now all he does is want to be my very best friend and he wants to be in my life and for me to be in his no matter what. Neither of us want to force anything- we just want things to fall into place right. He has some things that he needs to work on and i have some things i am working on. He call mes 3 to 4 times a day and we still talk every night for an hour or two. I love hearing from him and i dont want to cut him out of my life, and he has told me if i need him to step back or not talk or see eachother or what, that he will even tho thats not what he wants. Alot of things have changed but I still love him- not the idea of him or that i hate being single or anything but its he who i want to be with. And im trying to be patient and its not fair to pressure him into things (like for example we cuddled for two hours (he says its because i had made a comment the nite before about how much it meant to me) and even tho i know hes not wanting us to be in a relationship right now or him wanting to be in one i kinda said somethings that said otherwise). I just don't know what to do. Part of me feels like i need a few days off- no talking and no seeing eachother- but the thought of it makes me sad. I love hearing from him every night and i have trouble sleeping anytime that we dont talk before bed since we have for the past almost two years. I asked him flat out if i should move on and he hopes that i dont but he loves me so much that he just wants me to be happy. He is my frist real relationship (hes 23 im 22). I just dont know what to do, whats best- the way i look at it i want him in my life because he means to much for me just to walk away but it also catches up to me sometimes when were out have a great time and i realize that hes not mine that i can just hug or kiss him, that hes not going to cuddle later etc. and it kills me inside. He says that at times he forgets why were not together and then i cry and he remembers but i cry becauase we are not together. I just dont know how to handle all my emotions.... do i just let go completely? just tell him i need a few days of no communication? any ideas/ suggestions/ thought would help me alot!

• Answer:

  I would suggest you involve yourself in other activities than just a boy friend. This guy obviously has the hots for you, but does not want to deal with all the emotional baggage you are bringing to the table. He is still hanging around in the hopes that you will become more mature in your behavior. Only time will tell if you will?