How can I help my friend in an abusive relationship?

Help me! How can I stop feeling head over heels for my best friend when I'm a loving relationship already?!?

• How get I get over my best guyfriend? I keep falling harder for him even though I'm in a loving relationship. I've been in love with him since high school but he's only had feelings for me then but apparently I ruined it by talking about other guys. Hello, he wouldn't man up and ask me out. Girls had hurt him, and then he had to take it out on me, even though I was different and actually loved him for who he was. Now he doesn't feel the same nor ever will. ESPECIALLY when I've already been in a great relationship for a bit more than 2 years now. I look forward for every other week, because I get to go to karaoke and salsa dancing with him since it really makes me excited that I would be really close to him. Help me! I can't stop dreaming about him at night! (Why the hell do you think I wrote this at 4:20 AM!!!) I tried to have closeur 2 years ago, but failed. I told him how I felt mulitply times, but it made the friendship awkward. I asked my best girlfriend at the time to find out - main reason, his friends didn't like me, we were both goin' though bs at home, but apparently mine was more messed up. Long story short, I listened to his story and still loved him for him. I told him mine, he stopped liking me and said to my girlfriend its best to stay as friends since my life is messed. Please answer why he would do that as well back then. Then last week, my bf and I were about to break up and he was there for me?! WHY NOW?!?! Anyways, back to 2 years ago, I told myself I couldn't take it - I told myself I rather lose him as a friend than just have him only as a friend... I kissed him and ran away, and ruined the friendship. Then last June (2010) we ended up talking again, getting closer as he introduced me to his new friend which is down the street from me Omar. I don't wanna lose the friendship, but sometimes I can't tell wheither he has lingering feelings for me or not. From the vibe I get, I'm just his really good friend. How the hell can I get over him?!?! I don't wanna lose him again! Just seeing him brightens my day, just him talking about another girl romantically hurts like *****! Please answer my questions - why is he there for me now and how can i get over him? BONUS QUESTION: How can I tell if he's hiding lingering feelings for me? As well as how can I be more intimate with my boyfriend? P.S.: Don't tell me I should try to be more intimate with my boyfriend, I would if he didn't have a low sex drive or was very ticklish everywhere. -.-

• Answer:

  Maybe youre in the wrong relationship... just cuz youve been with someone doesnt make it right or give you a reason to stay w them.. wouldnt you want him to be honest and leave you if he felt this way for another?