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Where do broken hearts go?

Where do broken hearts go?

  • i was with my boyfriend for 4 years & we have a 2 year old daughter. We recently separated 3 weeks ago because he left me for another woman. things were going well, we were talking about marriage & children & 3 days later I found out about his new gf he has been talking to for 2 months now. I called her & told her about me & my ex denied us being together. He said we'd been broken up for months. I knew we had issues & I set up for us to go to couples counseling but I never thought he'd leave me & the baby for another woman! in time will he see the grass is not greener ? Will he have karma ?

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    KeKe, I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. I've recently experienced something very similar but just know that the table ALWAYS turns. Sometimes, our mates do think that the grass is always greener on the other side, but for some reason, the table always turn. Somehow, you have to find something to focus on other than him and this other woman. Allow him his space, set him free, and in the end you will see that it will ALL work in your favor. Is this a challenge....YES!!!! but you can do it. You and your daughter deserve the best. She needs you to be your best, and the only way you can do that is by changing your focus and start loving on YOU. In time, things will begin to happen that will show you and guide you in the best way. Just know, that as bad as this seems, something GREATER is on the other side waiting for you. What that "GREATER" is, is up to you. Focus on what you desire and it will come. I promise! I wish you the best and lots of love!

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About Kama, I can say nothing. I suggest that you seek a way to get some local support for the child. Your bf is fully responsible for ALL costs for your child, no exceptions. It is up to you to enforce this.

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Karma = imprint. Each of us makes imprints within ourselves, with every thought, word, action, and feeling we have/do. In turn, our internal imprints/karmas draw to us the circumstances, events, and people of our lives. Karma is NOT something outside of ourselves ... it IS us, as WE have made ourselves. Karma is not a punishment nor a reward .. if is Life responding to who we are, like responding to like. Of COURSE he will have karma ... every selfish imprint attracts a situation where he is treated selfishly. Every kind imprint attracts a situation where he is treated with kindness. This is an inescapable truth. As for him ... hon, you are hoping he will come back. Don't you see that he is NOT marriage material? Don't you see that if you were to get back with him, he would only end up cheating on you and dumping you again ... because he needs on-going infatuation. Infatuation never lasts with any one person, and those who are "addicted" to it keep on looking elsewhere when it dies out. This man will never remain faithful to his woman. Sorry you mistook his infatuation for love. But learn and move on. If you two got together, history would only repeat itself again ... and again, and again, until you got sick of it. I know you are hurting, and you are trying to soothe your hurt with the belief that he will see "the error of his ways" and return some day. But hon, in order to cheat on you, he had to create an image of you as being not-good-enough, so he wouldn't feel guilty cheating on you. You can't change someone else's internal image of you ... he won't ever see the mistake he made, because he's built up a different sort of story about you in his mind. Your task is to learn to face your pain and work through it ... go to that couple's counseling yourself for some tips on how to speedily and the least-painfully adjust to this new situation, and about how to let of the past and your attachment to him. Ask for some cognitive-behavioral exercises you can do (they are SO effective) ...

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