Kenya spending money?

Someone who knows Kenya well? Are all the beach boys gigolos? Please help?

• So I'm 33 years old and earlier this year I went to Kenya and spent four months there. I met this 24 year old guy there. He was one of the "rastas" that hang out on the beach. I hadn't been planning on "romance" at all but he pursued me and we started "dating." Our second date he started talking about wanting to get married to me and "mixing the blood" or having kids. He was also trying to get me pregnant. We ended up spending about three months together and I almost always paid for everything because he didn't have a job and had no money, etc. But it was worth it to me because he treated me like an absolute queen, and I was completely charmed by him. Also this may be TMI, but I only had to look at him and he'd get a b0ner, so that made me think he really did have an attraction to me. But since I've been home I've been reading about the gigolos in Kenya, and I'm wondering if I accidentally got conned by one! I'm planning to go back soon to spend more time with him but I'm also worried now about his true intentions. Could it be he really loves me? Is it possible? Or is it a 100% chance he just want my money etc.? Thanks. :) PS We're both HIV negative btw

• Answer:

  It's not at all normal for an African man to start talking about babies and marriage right away. Normally its like pulling teeth to get them to mention the word love. And definitely not normal for him to have a woman pay. Even if he were poor, and I know many poor men, they would never think of asking a woman to pay for anything. If this man was American would you be paying for everything? Would you think he was crazy for trying to get you pregnant right away? Probably yes so why do you think it would be different with an African man. And how well do you really know him? Go visit him but don't pay for a thing. Tell him you have no extra money as you spent everything on the trip and if he wants to go out to dinner then he is going to have to pay or you can do free things like walk on the beach. And do you really want to be with a man who lives in a beach area where there are plenty of well-paid (by local standards) jobs who doesn't work and expects a woman to support him? That sounds like a gigolo if he doesn't get a regular job Another problem with a lot of African men is that many consider it their right to have mistresses while the wife and kids are expected to stay at home. That's a traditional family. Once you are married, you are pretty much stuck at home after dark while he goes out drinking with his friends. You'll see it on your next visit, just look to see how many men you see out drinking but where are the women?