How can I meet Denzel Washington?

Washington DC: Intelligent, high-integrity, serious men - where or how would you try to meet like-minded women?

• Thank you very much for any information. I'm an intelligent, serious and high-integrity woman who is looking to meet someone. Bar/club scenes don't work for me and while I'm happy to chance on meeting someone at random in a bookstore, office or checkout line, I also want to pursue finding a relationship in a more responsible manner. The best way for me to figure out where and how to do that is to ask (high-caliber) men in DC where they would go. Would you go online? If so, which sites? Other services that match people up? Some other avenue to try and meet someone? I really appreciate your perspective. Needless to say, It is a given that in addition to whatever you would do, there is always the random, serendipitous meeting. I just don't want to depend on that as my sole avenue to meet people. I have a (possibly unfair) prejudice against online dating sites and I'd like to hear any of your thoughts on them and specific sites in particular if you have anything to say on that. In my past experience I did not meet people of the caliber I was looking for - but that could be because I did not stick with it long enough - so I'd appreciate any thoughts on that. Thank you very much! .

• Answer:

  Online is the best...if you are truly honest about what you are looking for. You need to understand that same men you meet on the street will be the same ones online. However, the advantage of online is that you have time to find out who they truly are (texting, e-mail, phone) before you actually meet them in person. There are also many meeting sites such as www.thingstododc.com, However, they end up cancelling a lot of events due to not enough men participating. Either way, I have found that women and men don't really say what they mean regardless. If you are looking for a husband or wife, say it. Don't say looking for a long term relationship. Men and women view that statement differently and expect different things from the person who says it. If you are just looking for a friend, you better mean what you say and not think you are going to turn a firnd into something else. All I am saying is, you get out of the meeting sites and online what you put in to it. At the same time, you have to protect yourself as much or even more online, because people (men and women both) sometimes try to write a fantasy of what they are looking for and get impatient when they are not meeting that type of person. If you are realistic, you will meet real people. Good things come to those who wait...i.e., be patient.