What are the differences in raising a child in Taiwan in Taiwanese style than in American and American style?

Chinese/Taiwanese kids tend to be better behaved and more diligent. This is probably because their entire extended family is involved in raising them. Two sets of grandparents plus parents to watch over them, provide guidance, and constructive input. It's much easier growing up when there are adults around to provide love and a structured environment. American kids tend to be wilder because they have fewer adults involved in their lives. A lot of American parents get divorced, so that creates tremendous stress for the kids. Grandparents are visited on holidays, but are rarely part of a child's day-to-day life in America. Independence is a big thing in America. Everyone just wanders off in their own direction. No one cares about anyone but themself.

The issue is not which country's method is better or different. It has to be what parent's own parenting skills they got when they were young and passed to their young-that I think you can differentiate what is bad parenting or good parenting really are. I think the grandmother haven't watched a reality show in the US called "Super Nanny." It might change her mind. :)

Manners are taught by good parents in the US. The US has more strict standards for social behavior that do not really exist in Taiwan or in China. In Taiwan, kids are basically let run wild and as long as they study very hard in school it doesn't matter how unmannerly they are. Actually, the adults in China and Taiwan are also very rude by western standards. They think I don't know what they are saying, but yes I do. But they say rude things to people's face! They pushed my children to get in front of them at the train station! They spit and did not wash! And they don't even realize or understand that this is offensive and wrong. And eating with them is like eating with a herd of noisy hungry animals. Yuck. Oh well, what can I do? I'm stuck with their culture.

Bear in mind these answers come from a parent in a mixed Taiwanese & American household living in Taiwan. My child is only 2 1/2 years old, and she's far from being a typical Taiwanese child. These are just my opinions and observations. For starters, the food is much healthier in Taiwan. And, most all children have the opportunity to grow up bilingual. On the down side, at quite a young age the Taiwanese boys seem to be considerably more aggressive than the girls. In regards to manners, I supposed that's mostly a function of the parents' instruction. Good parents = good kids, whether in Taiwan or a Western country. "Annoying aspects"??? Bad parenting. Physical abuse seems to be a bit more common here. I've seen far too many grandmothers/mothers here smacking their kids for the most trivial of reasons. I've yet to see a male role model do that. "Positive aspects"??? There seems to be a higher percentage of children smiling and walking with family members here, especially with their fathers.

My brother and I are both Taiwanese Americans, born and raised in the U.S., but both our parents are from Taiwan. Although it varies for each case and family because parents raise their children differently, I will speak from my experience. The rest of my cousins were raised in Taiwan. My parents moved to the US, so my brother and I can receive a better education. They said that in Taiwan, the children study so hard. There is not much free time to spend learning new things and becoming well-rounded, and few people play video games. I feel like in Taiwan the kids work harder and their lives are more based on studying and doing well in school. There is also more pressure on the kids there. They have to do well to get into A classes rather than B or C classes, and they have entrance tests for middle and high school. I feel like they are a lot more disciplined than us. On the other hand, you only need to take tests to get into college here unless you want to go to a good boarding, charter, or private school. When we go back in the summer, my cousins are still in school and then they go to tutoring for various subject, come home, do homework, study, and go to school the next morning. In some heavily-populated Asian areas in the US such as California, many people still send their kids to tutoring. I've never been tutored other than for SAT Math by my dad because I hadn't learned the information yet. Also, my brother and I have gotten to learn lots of new things. We've both learned instruments, played sports, and become involved in after school activities as well as worked. We spend lots of time with friends outside of class, have game consoles, etc. It seems like not very many people in Taiwan work unless their parents own a business, shop, or something else. My brother and I respect our elders, but we are more rebellious than our cousins. If our parents tell us to do something, sometimes we will argue whereas our cousins are more obedient. In college I have noticed that many international students are harder workers than American students. I have some friends from Taiwan, mostly TAS, China, Singapore, and India, and all of them went to tutoring until around 9 each day. But because a lot of their high schools were harder, they find college easier than us. They were used to the work load and intensity back home. They are accustomed to studying hard, so they do not really slack on school work and tests. I think the most annoying thing of the Taiwanese method is that kids do not get to experience much outside of studying and school. The good thing about this is that they develop a better work ethic and better understand the importance of hard work. Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like to have grown up in Taiwan, but since I have spent my entire life in the U.S., I can only answer your question based on my experience growing up here and my observations on my cousins growing up in Taiwan.

Hmm...i can't answer your question directly but I can share my experience and hopefully you might find this helpful. I was brought up in Taipei, grew up there for about 13 years before moving to Canada. Now I have stayed in Canada for over 15 years. What I find in the differences in rearing method are that Taiwanese parents (or Chinese parents in general) are more fixed on letting their kids do well in school, extra math tutors, extra piano lessons...etc. Everything is about grades. But for a western, it is more broad, like the parents will send their kid to soccer camp, basketball camp...etc. Also, western kids seem to question authority more, like if they aren't given a proper explanation for some order, they will ignore it. But for Taiwanese kids, they are brought up to treat the orders from adults as absolute. Even if the orders don't make sense at the time, the kids are told to just do it anyway. Of course, I am generalizing, but that's the pattern I observed for kids up to say... high school. After that in colleges, the differences kinda go away.

Please see this excellent research article "Parent expectations of young children in Taiwan" in http://www.thefreelibrary.com/Parent+expectations+of+young+children+in+Taiwan.-a0134247206

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