Im very frustrated & confused about my life in japan & money & time I have spent living here to study?

Tu eres llorica. Spanish isn't my strong point, so I hope you understand what I am trying to convey: You, sir, are a crybaby. I don't sympathize with your situation because you are a grown man who relies on his father to pay for his lifestyle. And then you say "I'm not a stupid English teacher!" Well I was a "stupid English teacher," and while you may think teaching English is stupid (I may agree depending on the class and the teacher), I would argue that being a man and still needing your father to pay for everything you do is pretty "stupid." The paycheck I got every month when I was a teacher wasn't stupid. So you don't like living in Japan, but you didn't leave, and you don't like it because Japanese people mistake you for an American? So, Japanese people do this to all foreigners. They talk about you right in front of you, because they think you can't understand English. They ask dumb questions like what color is gaijin blood, and do we have Christmas in the USA, and is it true that gaijin babies are born with pubic hair... To name a few off the top of my head. " I really feel that the japanese interest in foreighners is kinda superficial." Great! You should fit in fine then. You blame your own womanly personal problems on the Japanese while its obvious you feel guilty for living of your parents like a leech. That has nothing to do with the Japanese. And as for the every speaks to me in English thing: this only happens when I go out of town to a city or the beach or something. Everyone in my town speaks Japanese. Probably in your case, your speaking ability is so low that they are afraid of speaking Japanese to you because it will make you look stupid. But some little girl threw candy at you and said あめ リカ人? And that is what you're crying about? You need to grow a pair, son. That's an American idiom. I urge you to look it up online if you don't understand. If a little girl threw candy at me, I would throw it back at her or eat it, or ignore and laugh. I wouldn't get on the internet and cry about it like a little *****. "everyone is so serious and uptight in japan also" Hmmm, some kid throws candy at you and says Ame-rikajin, and you become furious? It sounds like you are by far the most serious and uptight person.

Your life is not for your father but for yourself. Simply speaking, you are too childish and coward. That is some of reasons why you can not put up with such different culture and normative background as Japanese society has anyway. In addition, you should know it that Japanese don't pay any interest on Spanish before you are going to go down there.

Your case is not so uncommon. In fact, there are Japanese students who go to other countries to study but decided to come back to Japan before the end of their original plan. So it's the opposite of you. Well, the conclusion is that you have found Japan is not a place you want to live any more. In that case, it's better that you go back to Spain. How to convince your father,,,, Tell him exactly how you feel right now. That you want to go back to your country. If you feel guilty from spending his money so much, you can return it later when you have a job there.

You don't go to Doshisha, do you? Because I know a Spaniard here that can't stand everyone trying to speak to him in English as well. As for your problem, well, it's not an uncommon one. Ultimately your life is your own, and you can take your experiences here with you wherever you go. As a native English speaker, I obviously have less trouble with being spoken to in English in terms of comprehension, but I sympathize with your frustration. In spite of what another person has said here, I actually saw a Japanese student studying spanish in the library yesterday, and I know another one who speaks it fairly well. But the Japanese will view you as a "guest" no matter how long you're here and how much you do - and how much Japanese you speak. There are some signs that public opinion is certainly changing - and I can tell you that a lot of the more educated younger Japanese people share your frustrations with respect to their own culture - but, as much as it may bother you, it's not going to change over night, and certainly it's not something that you can change on your own. If you're unhappy and you don't think that you'll ever be happy, you're ultimately faced with two options: 1) Try and stick it out and see if it gets better. Sometimes it does. or 2) Cut your losses and explain the situation to your father. I can only assume that he, like other fathers, wants more than anything for you to be happy. And if you do choose to return to Spain, your experiences abroad will prove an asset in your daily life. Best of luck. @bluemoonmemory もう消えてくれない？君ほど視野の狭い人間を今まで見たことないよ。 排他主義者なら、いつかこの外人と日本語・日本文学・日本文化の 知識で勝負しようか？君はバカウヨのよう、単なる目障りだ。 「バカウヨ」？ 日本なる大學院にて國文學が博士課程を 修めまゐらする此の我れ、大学にて覺ゑけむ。 @threedaypriest "@bluemoonmemory Can you do us all a favor and go away? I've never seen a human being as narrow minded as you. If you're so isolationist/nationalist, how about you and I compare our knowledge of Japanese culture, language, and literature sometime? You're like the baka-uyo, nothing more than an eyesore." (it's people like her, and Ishihara Shintaro, that are what's wrong with this country.) @Shaolin Shadowboxing: You need to look up the word idiom.

That あめ joke sounds pretty nasty, I feel sorry fo you. Anyway, if you really feel you can't continue to live here you can go back anytime you want so don't rush too much, you have spent 3 years already. The problem is you are going back not because you have found another goal of your life.You father invested to your staying Japan for your dream and future right? You'd better set another target which you achive back in Spain, that would sound more convincible to your father. I think being treated like Americans isn't that bad than lots of Japanese treated like Chinese in the west with slurs.These Japanese usually don't have bad intentions though I think it's a bit uneducated attitude. 日本語のコメントがｗ Bluemoonmemoryの皮肉たっぷりのコメは味があって 慣れれば面白い？かもよ。好き嫌いあるのはしょうがないけど。 あと彼女は国籍は日本じゃないはず。 つかバカウヨてｗどこで覚えたん？

I sympathise with you. I was in a similar situation (different country) where studying, studying and studying got me emotionally drained. My dad was footing the bill as well and i came across some idiots as well. I put my foot down, finished my studies and got the hell out as quickly as possibly. So my advice to you is just ignore these people, put in 100% to finish your studies and aim for a good degree/grade. When you finish, leave asap and look for a job elsewhere. Goodluck

Whining won't get you anywhere. I think you're very luck to have such a supportive family, really. I've seen lots of people here say that they wish to come to Japan but can't. Japanese people take you as American... What's the big deal? When I was in England for study, some punks often called me Paki! in the street just because I am Asian. What's the big deal? I am not South Asian, so I just ignored them. You seem to lose sight of your goal and are misleaded by itsy-bitsy detail. What's the purpose of your coming here? Life is not easy but hard work always pays. ブルームーンって日本人じゃないし．．． 外国人な故にあたしは日本語知ってる的に偉そうな 物言いになっちゃって反感かってるわけ。 まあ分からないでもないけど．．． オヤジ、娘にばっかたよってないで、もっとちゃんと日本語 ベンキョーしろ！なんですけど(><)

Okay, I will try to sympathize. To I am also going to give you my opinion, which may such you like or dislike. Let's take it by the numbers.... 1- I know a lot of foreigners who feel as you do. You're a gaijin, you must be American. Since I am American, well, it doesn't bother me, they have me pegged. But I can understand your frustration at always getting pegged as an American. There are other nationalities. Thing is, that is just the way it is in Japan. There is nothing whatsoever to change that. You have to let it go. If you can't, and it bothers you that much, well, leaving may be your only option. Because it is a simply fact of life. 2- Getting treated as a tourist? Not for me. The only thing I don't like is that EVERYONE in the neighborhood knows who I am. They know for sure that I live here and am not a tourist. Furthermore, I have to say that of all the people I have met on the street, even in Osaka, they don't automatically think I am a tourist. So, sorry, but I just can't agree with you there. 3- Well, you seem to be unhappy. You have to work things out with your father. But if you are that unhappy, well, once again, leaving may be your only option. What to tell your father? Mark Twain, (sorry, an American), once said something along the lines of "When all else fails, tell the truth." I wouldn't want my daughter living a life that she hated. Yes, I might be disappointed at having spent so much money, but if she took the time to tell me how badly she was feeling and how unhappy she was, I'd like to think I could understand. I can't agree with you that everyone is so serious and uptight in Japan. I can understand that to a certain extent, but I have some Japanese friends who are far from such. We go out and have fun. I am the instigator, but they get right into the groove. The change of clothes thing at the gym does sound weird. Have to agree with you on that. My gym, you come in, you change into your workout clothes, when you are finished, you shower and put back on the same clothes. That really is weird. But I don't think changing gyms is going to solve your problem. When I worked at this English school as the instructional supervisor, we were taught to look for culture shock. According to what we were taught, culture shock isn't something that the new arrival experiences. It's something that happens down the road, where the person starts to find all kinds of faults in the new culture, hates all the things they consider bad, and constantly find reasons that their own culture is more superior to that of the culture they live in. Sounds like you are suffering from culture shock. The cure? Get out. If you aren't happy, well, that's how you want to live your life? I went through that period. But I on trips back to the U.S., I found myself not liking the rude, impolite nature of many of the people I encountered, especially in stores. After a few days, I was ready to get back to Japan. Japan is my home now. Yes, it has its problems. So does any other country. But for me, home is where you hang your hat. Where do you want to hang your hat? If it isn't Japan, then for your own mental well-being, leave. I don't mean that in an angry way, just trying to helpful. Get out. It sounds like Japan just isn't working for you. @滑るる者: Wish you would share your communications with BlueMoon in English. Just as a guess, based on my limited reading skills, it doesn't sound like you have signed up as a fan of BlueMoon's. @滑るる者: Once again. Figured from what I read it wasn't a compliment. Tried to get my daughter to translate, but she had some problems, but still what she was able to say didn't sound good. Your translation? Thanks. You said it for me.

Japan is a very strange nation and a very proud nation too, they don't allow anybody that is not japanese to be part of their culture. So I'm not surprise you are in this situation. I personally would have never gone there in the first place.