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My wife has fled to South Africa with my two sons and she is keeping them from having any contact with me?

  • We were officially from Tanzania but we have been living in the USA for almost 10 years now. as the years have progressed we did not have a good steady relationship between ourselves, with her accusing me of things, lying and our arguments and so on. we could not stay together like this. One year ago, she left out of the usa with my sons ages 12 and 15 years old. I have tried to make deal with her as I wanted to keep my oldest son with me and she take our youngest, so we can split the kids. She disagreed and stated that she wanted to take both of them and that our sons should not be split apart from each other but that they will come back to visit me during their summer and winter vacations. it has been a year already that she has been gone, we both agreed that I would still be able to stay in contact with my sons by phone or mail, but I have not been able to speak to my sons for 7 months now. during the first few months they were gone everything was going fine and i was speaking to my sons. We had agreed that I would get the boys in june through august and december through january. When I called in june and I spoke to my oldest son and he told me that he and his brother were excited and they could not wait to see me again, as they were supposed to come back to me in June that month. I told him to speak to their mother about it and remind her so that she can be aware that it was june already and that they should be coming back to me in a few weeks from there. Everysince then I have not heard from any of them. We are a family as I am still married to her. I feel she is not wanting me to see them or have any contact with them, so she isin't allowing them to speak to me. My sons and I are very close and they would usually be calling me very often atleast few times out of the week every week, so I know they would not just discontinue speaking to me all of a sudden. I know my wife is the reason because this, she did not want to be family with me, now she is taking my sons away from me. I refuse to let her block contact away from my sons, and I know that is just what she is trying to do. I have been trying to reach her and there has been no answer. I am now starting to think that she is not even in south africa anymore, or that she wasnt there in the first place and it could have been a lie. Even though she and I are not together anymore, I should still have a right to beable see my sons am I right? Legally here in the US we are still married, and I do know that parents can go to court over the children, but only problem is she is not in the states, so I would not know what to do I do know one thing, if I am able to find contact with her again... I am comming for my sons reguardless of what she has to say and I am taking both of them back. I am feeling stress because 7 months and no contact with them, I want to know what happened to my sons and where they are at.

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    If you're an American citizen now, if she took your kids WITHOUT you legally relinquishing your parental rights, that's kidnapping and not just a state case, it's forwarded to the FBI and the American division of Interpol. GET THEM INVOLVED! I hope this all works out for you, this is a horrible thing.

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@ Ashleys: U r such a racist!!!!!!!!!!

deshy

@ Ashleys - You have no clue what you're talking about. So if you have nothing to contribute you can shut up. As for your question, @pw - the child care laws in South Africa are relatively simple when it comes to children born in a marriage (regardless of where the family is from). Both parents have equal right of access to the children and in fact have a duty to create a loving and caring environment in which the kids can grow up. If your children are minors (which they are), then you have every right to petition the court for access and your wife cannot do anything to stop you. The only time a court will interfere with a parent's right to see or contact his/her children is if there is proof of some form of abuse or that the parent is unable to take proper care of the children. In terms of our law the standard rule to be applied is what is in the best interests of the children? Based on this question a court will decide on what rights parents get. Further, if you come to SA and try to take your children out you could be met with some problems - children may not cross the borders of SA without the consent of both parents - so if their mother doesnt want you to take them she could have you arrested for kidnapping despite the fact that you're their father. My advice to you would be to report their absence to the police as a possible kidnapping. That would mean getting both the US and SA police involved. They will tell you what you should do next. If she is in SA then I would advise you to find a good attorney in the city where she is living and file a suit for custody or something similar - experts will tell you exactly what you can and cant ask the court for. The biggest problem I can see is that you are still married (possibly - because she could have filed for divorce in SA without you knowing about if she's been here for over a year already. Its a loophole but they can issue a summons without having to serve it on you personally under certain circumstances). If you are still married then you may want to consider filing for divorce and sorting out custody issues then. I wish you the best of luck in sorting this out.

Pinkpout

i'm pretty sure that that constitutes as kidnapping... get the authorities involved.

ViolentxInnocence

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