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How To Win Back Your Ex Wife?

Trying to win back my ex-wife?

  • we have been appart for a year and 2 months, cant get her out of my mind, still am in love yet, she wont give me the time of day anymore, says she has been single ever since we have been appart, dont know what to belive anymore can someone give me a way to get over her, or get her back, any answer is appriciated

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    You must stop and look at what has taken place and decide what is best for you, over and above your emotions. Then there are the questions of why you are apart, if any kids are involved, in-laws, religion, etc., etc., etc. Right now the break up rate in America is 50 per cent. On top, or below that, are some old stats that say only 33 per cent who remarry will remain together. That might seem pretty good; until you add in reality. Let me put it this way. You are three times more likely to part after a rerun then you were to begin with. My guess is, if we freshen up the stats, the odds are at least 5-1 against you. You can get those odds at any casino. Unless you can make some elemental change in the way your relationship works all you will do, for your best efforts, is put off hurting now for hurting later. To make an elemental change in how the relationship works; means you need to make a major, even monumental change in yourself. On top of that, you must win her despite all the negatives; while not expecting her to change. If she is not giving you the time of day; she doesn't see anything for her in what you are presenting. As long as that is her vision, nothing is going to happen. What did she see and what did she expect to begin with? Do you really know? You are still asking her about her personal life, which technically is not your business any more. If she doesn't see anything down the road with you; maybe you should try and see it through her eyes. What do you see for yourself? Bottom line bud I feel for you; you are stuck and looking for someone to give you a sure direction. It's ambivalence, and your feelings are in a bind. So I go back to my original statement. What is best, down deep in your gut, for you? I'm telling you straight as I can from a been there done that! Nice ride man. Make up you mind and put it on the road. I shouldn't say this but life is short. I remember a biker "T" shirt from hippie days. "@ss or grass, nobody rides for free." Think about it, in a way it applies to us all. If you don't get back together and you live long enough and grow to know yourself well; you will look back and see that this problem would have been a breeze to handle. But now, as they say in Germany. "To soon old, to late smart."

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Greetings! Become the person you were born to be-the best person you can. The Law of Attraction will draw someone to you, be it her, or someone better. Don`t even try to forget-the good or the bad-grow into a stronger person. In the Game of Life, only the strong survive. There will be worse things before you, move ahead-there is no going back. /!\

Ard-Drui

Once someone has become an EX, it is best to leave him as an EX. It is not a good thing to go back to a former spouse. If my husband and I divorced, there is no chance that I would marry him again, because I would not settle with him ever. I will always love him though. I would not marry anyone else either, but that is because I do not believe in making my children STEP. I think that is an evil thing to do to children.

Mai C

Sometimes these things happen so that we learn to let go of them...you'll only be hurting yourself in the end if you do not realize this now. I do not recommend the use of any *spells* for two reasons; one, I do not believe you would want her to be with you unwillingly and it is taboo and pointless to try and "control" another's actions. More than likely doubtful that you have the expertise needed to attempt such a task anyway....if you did, you wouldn't be asking the question. That is not a negative statement; just a matter of fact.

Malachi

Sometimes it is hard to get over someone when they seem to be sending mixed signals. You say she wont give you the time of day, yet you also said she told you she has remained single. I do not think winning her back is going to happen. Even though she may not be seeing another man she has obviously moved on with her life without you. Life is to short to waste on regret and unhappiness. Tell yourself that the relationship you once had with your ex wife is over forever. Maybe moving or changing jobs or some other big changes in your life will make it easier to make a fresh start in the relationship department. You deserve to be happy and loved unconditionally.

grtchi09

The solid answer is that you CAN"T forget. You dont have a memory erasor do you? Then stop trying to make yourself forget about your love and the life you shared. It will be easier to move on when you realize that you can't forget about it and you can't make the love or the hurt stop. When that happens and you start living your life for you and not for her then you will wake up one day and realize that is doesn't hurt as much. After time it won't hurt at all. It is something that takes time. But you have to realize who you are and what you are worth and go from there.

peace_by_moonlight

She is a different person now. People change, just remember the good times that you had together. It will never be the same with her. Maybe you will find someone else that you will feel that love towards. The important thing is to try to stop thinking about her so much.

Karen

Normally winning someones love back is a very difficult thing to accomplished.... Question do you have any children.. Also I need to know what caused the break up in the first place.... Also did you two fight often or periodically... Also who did what to create a the straw that broke the Camel back... I am sure you know what I mean....................................… Just remember not to try to overwhelm her and do everything at a much slower pace... And try not to aggravate old wounds speak of newer things.... And tell her that you know she stills love you just as much.......... I can be reached at [email protected]...... Also tell me how long this break was forth coming..... Talk to you later kilroymaster

kilroymaster

Nope, It takes two to make it work. Move on with your life and not wallow in the past. I am not saying it will be a breeze, but it must be done. I have already been there, so this is experience talking.

Dark Knight

I feel you I have a similar life . You can't force it anymore . I am trying to find someone better than my ex. I am on a seemingly endless and non-productive search. I may have finally done it but, Slow motion is key

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