Why do military wives or women in the miltary get upset when I say my wife is not on my bank account?

Marriage is a commitment, if you can't trust your wife to have equal access to your bank account, you shouldn't have married her. Who do you think you are? You are giving her the basic needs? Are you a Muslim who thinks you control women and provide for them? That is not how civilized people interact.

Smartest thing you have ever done... Don't give her a POA either... There isn't anything that can't wait until you get back home...NOTHING !!!! You won't come back from a Deployment into a Mountain of Debt... 2nd Biggest Reason for Divorces...ABUSE OF THE POA'S... No she cannot go to your Commander about not putting Her on your Bank account...That is pure BS... Stop listening to the Barracks room Lawyers... It is YOUR Money and Benefits...NOT Hers !!!! If you are not supporting her it is another story... In actuality the BAH is NOT to support HER... It is the Per Diem that pays for your Room & Board while living in the Barracks... Once you are Married or Given Permission to Live off Base... You get that money as BAH to pay for a Place for YOU to stay and pay for YOUR MEALS... Since you now have to Pay to eat in the Messhall... Anything else comes out of your Pocket... LOL...see I have Thumbs Down... Sorry...I didn't answer your question... Most are "TAG CHASERS" and they think all of Your Benefits are theirs... That is why the Divorce rate for First Time Enlistees is 95%+... Per DOD: Stats...

If "women's liberation" was why they are mad, they should be mad at your wife because she is relying on you for money. A lot of military wives are gold-digging whores. They are upset you are giving your wife limited access to the mine.

Yes! It is bad. You are treating your wife like a child or a housekeeper and not like a wife! If you don't trust your wife to manage your money (and by your I mean yours and hers) then you don't trust your wife. You are setting yourself up for a divorce because you don't currently have a wife, you have a housekeeper or a child you don't trust. These are your decisions to make, but marriage is about trust.

The reason they want her to be named on your account is because if something were to happen to you, she could not access the money in the account. The money in the account would be used to settle your estate i.e. debts, taxes etc. If there was anything left she might get some of it. If she is joint on the account then she has access under any circumstance.

I think its smart, for both of you in case things go badly. Good for you.

Duck them hoes

Its not an issue having separate accounts, if you have an alltment set up to deposit money in another joint account or if she has a power of attorney while your deployed But what if your wounded, get a head injury in an IED attack and have no ability to make a transfer Then she has no access to BAH, Bas or anything going into your account

The problem here is my husband ex. did not even know how to get Tricare benefits with an I D card. Keeping secrets from your wife, just means you know she will leave you so why not get divorced now. I don;t like men that keep their women in the dark, it is emotional abuse. I know lots of men that do this and it is disrespectfulness to the women that brings your kids into the world and carries them for nine months, it is like you are saying that you and she do nto agree when it comes to the money or other things. YEA DUMMY! YOU die and she has no way to access the money in your account, I WOULD NOT WANT A JOB IMMEDIATELY AFTER MY HUBBY DIED SO I GUESS YOU THINK SHE NEEDS TO GET A JOB BECAUSE SHE CANNOT GET TO THE MONEY WHILE SHE IS GRIEVING!? dOES SHE EVEN KNOW WHERE THE INSURANCE PAPERWORK IS SO SHE CAN PROPERLY BURY YOU!? THAT'S WHAT I THOUGHT!