Help!!!!look down there,what should i write?

I am a victim of armed robbery and kidnapping. Should I write to my offender in prison?

• He is facing 15 years. i'm a female by the way... he pointed a gun at me and my friends. I just want to know what he was thinking. Is this safe? It happened 4 years ago and at first I just brushed it off, but for some reason I have been thinking about it a lot for the past couple days and I just want to know what he was thinking. I want to tell him that I forgive him. There are no victim-offender mediation programs in the state of South Carolina. I've already written the letter. i put it below. read it if you want to --------------------------------------… Jonathan, I don’t know if you remember me, but I’m the girl who you pointed your gun at 4 years ago. you can call me Anna… It doesn’t seem like it has been 4 years already. I’m writing this letter to let you know that you had a huge impact on me, as well as my younger brother. Since that night happened, my brother hasn’t been right in the head since... **** happens I guess, but the thought of it almost brings me to tears. I tried to look online to see if there were any victim-offender mediation programs in South Carolina. I was surprised to find out that South Carolina doesn’t offer such a thing and I was told that if I wanted to speak with you, then I would need to write a letter. I thought about everything that happened that night and I started crying. I wrote a story about my experience for a class that I’m taking. I had to read it out loud for my class so I could be critiqued. I almost made it to the end of the story until my eyes started tearing up and my voice started shaking. Right there, in front of everyone in my class. I felt like such an idiot… You can read it if you want to. Just write me back and let me know. To be honest with you, thinking about everything that happened has never brought tears to my eyes until now. Before now, I had only brushed it off and put it in the back of my mind and never thought a thing about it. It wasn’t until now that I’ve realized the impact that it has had on my family… specifically my brother, but there’s nothing that can be done about it now. I want to say that I forgive you. I forgive you for what you did that night and I forgive you for the impact that you’ve had on my brother. I sincerely hope that you’re doing well and I hope that you will write me back… I never showed up for court that day because I was afraid. I hope writing this letter is a good idea, but I just want to know what made you do that. I remember looking through the window when you knocked on the door of that old trailer and smiling at you. I thought you were handsome, I thought you were coming in to have fun with all of us. What happened? Did Johnny really owe your friend money for crack-cocaine or was that a load of bull ****? I want to know what happened that night and you’re the only person that I can come to for that answer. I can only hope that you write me back. I can understand if you would rather not write me, but I’d be happy to hear from you. I want to know your side of the story. If you could please just tell me why you did it and why you chose us? I heard that you knew the boys outside of this armed robbery. Are you the one that they call Six? Or was that your partner? I went online and figured out that you’re at McCormick. What is it like there? Are you studying at all? What is life like for you now? How do you feel about everything that has happened? How often are you allowed to have visitors? Do you ever feel lonely? Is it scary? Do you hate me? Would you like some books to read? Let me know. I really do hope that you have some good people there that are looking to change their lives around. That would really make me happy. I hope you’re doing well. I’d like to talk to you and I’m interested in how you feel and what you have to say... Write back.

• Answer:

  for all its worth, i would like to tell u that u are very brave, i for one understand that these kind of things are hard, and forgiving him is an amazing thing to do. writing a letter to him is a fantasic idea. getting mediation between u and yur attacker will be helpful for u and make wat happen easier to handle. as long as u dont give him any info thats too personal and dont get too close to him, then it should be cool, but dont get yur hopes up too high, his letter might be kind and grateful that u hav forgiven him, sometimes that all people need to know, that they're forgivin, on the other hand he might be angry and his letter could be mean and make the way u feel about the situation worse. however if yur willing to take the gamble the go for it, it obvious yur willing to do something good. Totally ACE! :) Hope this helps, good luck :)