At what age will a judge honor a child's wishes on where they want to live,custody?

There is no uniform age qualification, it varies state to state as some states have made a statutory statement regarding this matter ( check your state statute) it would be further complicated if the children resided in another state. In states for which there has been no statutory provision then it may vary by judicial district or judge to judge, in some cases the non-custodial parent would find it necesssary to make the motion for the primary custody, and then the child would be required to make their wishes known before the court (simple). In others a judge may appoint a guardian ad litem to represent the child's interest at that point and present their findings for the judge to consider in making a decision (moderately difficult). Or the judge could require a full blown custody case complete with home studies, pysch. etc, etc, (most difficult). In any case you would require an attorney (doesn't sound like you are knowledgeable enough to represent yourself) and the attorney most likely could answer your question on the phone before you go any further.

It depends on the State you live in. Most states however set the age at 12 but that is subjective since some 6 yr olds are better equiped than some 12 yr olds and there are 12yr olds who are not mentally stable enough to make that decision. Typically though 12 is the age. In Liberty, Eric H. Smith www.erichsmith.com

I believe the age of a child will have to be 18+ but I could be wrong I know but having two cousins with divorced parents and a friend with divorced parents i think its 18

It's different for every state obiviously, but it is also different for every judge. I did some looking and it seems that in the past it has definately sided with the mother. Not until the child reaches "age of consent" do they really consider anything they have to say. You also might have to take in account for psych docs too. They will have pull on the judge if it goes that direction. The judge will more than likely ask the children in closed chambers where they will want to go. Your kids will probably have their own lawyers too (from what I have seen in past cases). So, not to confuse things, but if your kids say they want to live with you because you buy them things or you don't ground them or something, obviously the judge is not going to consider that as a pull in either direction. Good luck though!!

I think the age is 16? But there is a website that has state laws on it lexisnexis.com this will help you to search for case law and maybe some better answers good luck!

My Freind had the same thing happen to him a few years ago his son wanted to live with him. He went to court and they told him his son wasnt old enough to make his own decsions yet. So he had to wait till his son turned 16 and now he lives with his dad. But that was in Delaware,pa. If I find out what the law it is in Indiana i will send you it.