What are your opinions on this?

(A Lot to read but I need opinions!) What is the better solution for this predicament?

• This question is about relationship issues, fyi. I am going 2 have 2 tell u a really long story in order 2 allow u 2 understand things better, because I am really needing opinions, all are welcome, ((yes I will still choose what I consider the best)) I am just wanted any & all view points. (I'm going 2 put names 2 some people so that it's easier 2 discuss this.) So a month ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. He was my first boyfriend, first kiss, first i love you, first partner. We met the end of our Jr. year in high school, things moved slowly at first and it all seemed perfect. After almost a year we were engaged. Had been engaged for a while when we broke up the 1st time because of complications in our relationship. A month later got back together to give it one last shot and mutually decided to end it. A while later I start finding out things about my ex that I had a feeling might be true but never really knew until one of his friends told me and a couple of my friends told me things. This friend of my ex's who told me had never previously tried to put moves on me, he was just nice & that's all. In fact he thought I hated him because my ex(Henry) made him think that. Well this friend of his (Vince) and I started casually talking and before we knew it we were enthralled in deep conversation. So we moved it from facebook to skype and got on the next day and video chatted as well ((Vince is in the military so he is at a base across seas right now)) Before long we had feelings for each other and I was beaming! All I could think about was him and no other guy crossed my mind, I wasn't even interested in any other. So after about a week of talking I decided that since I was basically already being loyal to him that we'd put a bf/gf label on it. After a while things started hitting me like the fact that I was betrayed by Henry for a while and didn't even know it and started doubting my relationship with Vince. It is just hard to maintain that kind of relationship sometimes (keep in mind that we never felt anything for each other before now, so I don't even know what it'd be like in person with him because feelings change everything) Vince is the kind of guy that he is blunt, can be jerky but it's part of his nature and sometimes his charm, but he has a surprising sweet side. I think our personalities are a lot alike! When I think back on Henry and I, we really didn't have much personality traits in common, we shared similar values and had alike histories, but thats really it. I felt so much of a spark with Vince right off the get go. He frustrates me like hell sometimes! And we've already duked it out over skype and we've only been talking a couple weeks lol! Yet I still come back for more :P I don't get it either sometimes. What makes things difficult is we have a 7 hr times difference. Also, I am only 20 and haven't had my own freedom yet. I am leaving a juco this may and transferring to a university where I will be living in a dorm instead of my parent's house. I have been needing and wanting my freedom for a looong time! I am the oldest and have had so much been asked out of me when I was younger. Vince doesn't come home till around July - September and is only home a month. So I would either not be at the university yet, or will only have been there a short time. When Vince comes back we had planned on getting to know each other more and hanging out a lot. So I guess my point is another fear is what if I meet someone at the university while I'm with him. . .and will being with Vince affect my freedom? Vince will be home again the following April. See the thing is, Vince is amazing. . .where as Henry was really possessive and smothering, Vince is really not. He has great advice, he is level headed when he needs to be. He makes me laugh, makes me open up, be a bit daring, frustrates me all the time! He's seen me cry and comforted me even while being thousands of miles away, and he is good to me. . . Right now the dilemma is that I am not sure about if I am ready to commit again, I know it seems so soon, but at the same time this feels right, him and I seem to fit and I am SO excited for him to come home and to meet his family because he talks about them all the time. But at the same time, I wonder if I am not being fair to myself. . .am I not giving myself enough time to be free. The thing is, as long as I am under my parents' roof I can't be free. . .but I can't move out yet because I am not financially sound yet. I am just afraid that if I tell him to post pone our relationship (which would pretty much mean no talking anymore) that I'll lose that chance with him later. So idk whether to go w/the safer smarter choice of waiting. . .or if I should risk getting hurt and such for something that I hope to develop into something more! What are some opinions you all have? I don't know if I mad

• Answer:

  Just go with it. You may get hurt, but if you don't do it now you will never know what would have happened. If you don't do it you may regret it later.