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• Things are not going very well. To be precise I am in a mess. I have two main problems that I am going through & they are Love & Career. Upon further reading you may feel that I am going through problems that everyone goes through in life. It may sound like routine life challenges & problems but we all fight a battle in our lives & while fighting, the fighters only understand the pain. My situation is similar. I am in a relationship since the past 1 year & 7 months. I am having an awesome relationship with the love of my life. My girl’s presence in my life means the world to me. In fact I love her so much that I can even change myself for her without regrets. We have been through the best as well as the worst time’s together. We have had the worst fights yet come out of it & loved each other too much. This morning I was welcomed by a challenge. My Girlfriend’s family wants to get her married. She is a year older to me. I am 23. This situation is soo complicated that she cant even tell her family about me as she comes from a slightly strict background. Before proceeding further I would like to say that I am from India hence its a little tough as you all know how familes here are so much bonded by values. Cultures etc but I don’t care about these things as they don’t matter. What matters the most is Honesty & How you are as a person. Coming back to the point: Me & My Girlfriend are from two different background. She is of a different religion & so am I. She comes from a very rich background where as I come from a Semi Rich background. In the view of her family I am nowhere close to their demands. For my girlfriend these things don’t matter at all but she cant tell her family about me is because her parents (both of them) have been through severe medical complications (heart attacks & paralysis) & hence she does not want to add any mental stress on them. To top it all she has younger sisters who are also close to marriageable age & hence she has some amount of pressure from family to get married. My second problem as I said is my career. I am an MBA & so is my girlfriend. I finished my MBA a year back & took a year of for my girlfriend as she was completing her’s. I wanted to be with her for all the time as we were in the same city so without any regrets I gave up looking for a job or working anywhere just to be with her & focus on the relationship. I still don’t have any regrets. Today in times of crisis I have a screwed up personal life & I don’t have a career either. I am not getting a job anywhere atleast so that I can be busy & all that I am subjected to all day long is STRESS. I have always had a good academic record from some of the prime institutes of the country yet that isn’t helping me. You can just say that I am going through a rough time. Before these problems started I was in some other mess. I have always had bad relationships & been through a constant rough patch be it academic, professional or personal. At times even problems at home. For 3 years non stop I have been facing a problem of failed relationships, professional failures & alcohol addiction but I stood up & without the help of a rehab I fought the battle & got rid of my bad habit. At one stage I was on anti depressants also but that dint help me at all. But today I feel that I don’t have the strength anymore to fight this battle. I am tired & most of all I am loosing what I truly love & thats my girl. She means the world to me. Today I am nothing but a few years back I was something. There is too much to express but I don’t have the energy to do that also. I feel lost, fed up & tired of my situation. I don’t feel fed up with life. Life is a gift & I will treasure. Tough times come but how do I deal with them? My girlfriend wants to do a mutual break up. Its badly affecting her too. She cries everyday in frnt of me & looking at her sad is badly affecting me too. How is it possible for us to break up mutually when we still love each other? I would again like to say that I am in India & hence things here are not that easy when it comes to love & relationships. I just want some blessings to face this phase of my life with faith, hope & courage. I trust God & I know something nice will happend because somewhere I feel that I am a good human being. I need help. Please Help.

• Answer:

  You messed up, big deal. When you hear my story, you will say your life isnt bad at all but then we arent comparing.Everyone gets what they can handle. I am from India too and I understand where you are coming from. There is way too much on stake here. The girl is chickening out for her own reasons and thats fine. Just listen to her, let her go. It will be tough for a year or two but then it will pass. After the break up, make sure you put yourself in non profit or some activity. Detach yourself from everything that reminds you of her. Initially, it will be tough but gradually you will make a new friends circle and things will get better. I assure you. Another thing, you NEED to find a job for people to respect you. More importantly, for you to respect yourself. Take a mediocre job and concentrate on that and your family now. Your parents dont deserve to go through this crap for your and the girl's indecisiveness. Also, dont blame yourself entirely for it. The girl made a choice and told you waht she wanted. Something made her choose her family and every thing else over you. Have some self respect and also respect what she wants. After all it takes two to tango. Let her go and find a life for yourself. There is so much you can do with your life that doesnt involve her being there, find it and do it! Good luck my friend. Let go let go let go!