I can't stand this anymore, what can be done about this? I can't stand to see her like this, being beat, help
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My girlfriend's dad punches and beats her, to some extent. Hearing she had bruises so bad you could see the knuckle imprint just pushed me over the edge, I'm not going in to detail but I can't call child protective services... it's long story but it's out of the question. All that she can think is that she only has 2 more years before moving out, I can't stand this anymore, what can I do? I hardly know her parents and I'm pretty shy, I really can't stand her having to go through this, I know, but that's more for the long story, anyways what can I do? I'm almost fearful that she might be kidding or lying about it which is another reason i don't want to call CPS, I can't stand this anymore and she won't get any help. I really need someone's help on this, I have to do something but I can't even image what, I'm not over promoting myself but if it comes down to it I can take a punch, and I'd do it for her but this isn't right, I can't stand this, I'm 15 and she's 16.
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Answer:
are you saying that cps can't be contacted by anyone? Or, are you saying that YOU can't be the one who makes a report? Would she want to leave if she had someplace safe to go? You or she can call this place: Girls and Boys Town National Hotline 1-800-448-3000 They say, "Call With any Problem, Anytime - Open 24 hours a day, everyday." If you want to remain anonymous, say that. If they are required to have a name, you or she can say "John/Jane Doe" FYI - police, teachers, counselors and healthcare providers are all "mandated reporters" meaning that, by law, they have to report it to CPS. Any time she has any physical marks caused by an adult in her household, use a camera phone or regular camera to take a picture of it. If you can take the pic on something that will also record the date, that is a good idea. That way, if she ever needs to make a report, she will have documented proof. Also, use a calendar to document everything she shares with you about abuse or violence in her home. Record it on the dates you're told, and note the date she says it happened. This too might be useful down the road. If she is already in the juvenile justice system, she can ask the court for a "guardian ad litem." That person goes into the home and investigates and makes an independent assessment and recommendation to the courts about how best to protect her.
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i dont think you should tell anybody. i dont think you should talk to her parents about it... cuz the minute you leave, her dad's gonna abuse her for telling others... if you choose to tell somebody, they're gonna take her away from her parents, and trust me... i think she'd rather get abused that be taken away from her parents... and even if she DOES get taken away from her parents, she'll think it's the biggest mistake in her life... she'll miss them... A LOT!! so i think you should let her take it for a couple more years... or tell ur gf to do something to make them proud... why would they hurt her then?? if they abuse her, it's probably because she did something... or maybe they just wannt get their anger out... god knows why! but still... i don't think you should tell anybody... how would you like it if someone took you away from your parents when nobody asked them to!! she's not asking anybody to take her parents away... she thought she could trust you... just give her that trust... dont tell even ur friends about it... cuz somewhere along the line... da police r gonna find out abou it. soooooo... DON'T TELL!!
momo.
Instead of calling social services call the police and tell them you think your girlfriend is being child abused by her father, and let them investigate and make the decisions on what to do.
Lilkryptonite
here's a joke, old guy couldn't stand to watch his poor wife haul all those heavy blocks of wood to the fire burner every morning while he just laid there so he decide to sleep with his face toward the wall. Get it, if there is nothing you can do then you need to look the other way and move on with your life don't get involved in anything you don't know about.
miked452001
drop an unnamed letter in the mailbox saying something like, i can see whats going on in there every time you hit her. make it seem like a neighbor
Sean M
If you beleive you can't go to CPS have you considered turning somewhere else for help? What about talking about it with your own parents and seeing what they have to say. You can also go to a guidence counselor at school. They would also try to help, but if you gave them your girlfriends name, they might have to take legal action. I'm not sure. Also talk to your girlfriend some and try to see what she would be willing to do to help it stop. Maybe she'd be willing to go with you to talk to someone about it. Just remember, "The most important thing to do is to tell someone about the abuse." That's the first step in ending it. I hope that this might help some. I hope you find a solution.
Lindz
She should notify the police...or at least go to a trusted teacher or counselor at school. What is happening is illegal and if she remains there 2 more years...he may kill her. Where is her mother? Does she have aunts/uncles, grandparents who would help her??? No one should tolerate this kind of abuse...but she has to make the decision to get help NOW
candleinthewind7579
IF YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH AND YOU LOVE HER GET A JOB AND TAKE HER AWAY FROM THAT JERK??? CAN YOU??
UNIQUE
Well,if she ends up crippled or worse then what,you need to see somebody a teacher a minister of some kind,an anomanous call to police something if you don't you might end up reqretting it the rest of your life,and if those bruises are that bad I don't see how they can be faked,do you.DO SOMETHING!!!
Butch46
Any man that beats a woman or a kid, deserves to have his a** beat. So go and tune him up and explain why this is happening. Also let him know that if it happens again that it will be worse next time. More than likely he will not listen, but if it bothers you that much eventually it will stop him.
badmfbri
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