How to ask him out?

How do i gain enough confidence to ask her out?

• we are both in college and live in the same dorm and our friends are in the same dorm too. i want to ask out my best friend and ive been so close, i can taste it. but i have many anxiety disorders and right at the last minute, they kick in and i back down. im naturally a shy person, but im not in most cases around her. i havent asked out anyone before so i dont know what im doing. i mean i do, but not specifically, like what to say, how to bring it up, how to ask or even when to ask her out. i mean if i ask her on a weekday, she might be busy and thinking about school. but i feel if i ask her out more toward the weekend, i dont want to ruin or get rejected because she has other plans already. i bet she would say yes, but i get anxious and all these bad thoughts rush through my mind like "she will say no because she hates you inside" or "you are a terrible person" and stuff like that. i know they arent true, but my thoughts are so controlling i believe it and has made me hesitant to ask her out. and i feel like its never a good time to ask her because shes tired or shes busy or something like that. basically a situation where shes thinking of something else so she will be more likely to say no. people say "just ask her out", but its not that simple for me and trust me, i tried. i mean unless thats really the only way i can do it, please dont use that as a cop out. and although she is most likely going to be understanding that im nervous and timid, i dont want to get the feeling that she is thinking of how awkward the situation is and not take what im doing seriously. thanks to everyone that answers!

• Answer:

  wow you certainly do have some anxiety disorders. over thinking things (like you've done here) will lead to anxiety. just do it, not only to possibly gain a relationship, but for yourself. your in college and it sounds like to you need to stop over thinking things and just start facing your fears. ask for her number (sure you already have it though if your best friends) and just ask her if she wants to go somewhere with you to eat like a restaurant and just go and be yourself. That's what a date is, and at the end you could kiss her, she probably will get the message when its only you two alone. If its been just you two alone many times, then shes probably just going to see you as a friend and it'll be a bit harder cuz she doesn't see you as someone she can have a relationship with right now.