How to I become more outgoing?

How do I become more flamboyant and outgoing?

• Hi, I'm 18 and I would like to know how I can become more flamboyant, bold, talkative and outgoing instead of being shy. Even though many people and others told me that there's nothing wrong with being shy and that I should be myself. It's just that Idk what to think any more it seems like they take me for a joke or something and assume that I'm the easy going, easy to persuade shy childish girl... lol. It seems that when I try to bring it to someone's attention, they push me aside or something idk. The word "shy" just doesn't seem to fit or agree with me. The word "shy" seems like it's just a nice way to state that someone has low-confidence and is unsure of themselves... (Even though it's not). However, I want a new transition and take a new step and journey. I would like to be a flamboyant, outgoing, fearless, and popular person. I would like to throw the shyness out the window because it's not getting me anywhere. I'm an aspiring singer I wrote many songs, basically I have no fans and I really need to build up my social networking sites to the max in order to advertise my music. I don't wanna be known as the "shy" cute girl any more. I wanna be that, flamboyant, sexy chick with attitude that turns heads and makes people question: "Is that really her? Wow d**n! Let me talk to her" Can someone please offer me some valuable advice and pointers? I would greatly appreciate it. Serious answers please, Thank you kindly. Best answer receives 10 points!!!

• Answer:

  Hi Jenny, With that positive attitude I must say you are already out of the 'shy' zone! I agree with you 100%, shyness is misinterpretated. My advice to you, work solely on self confidence. All you have to do for others to see a bold, outgoing, lovely person is you need to believe that you are a bold, outgoing, lovely person. You need to be confident. Confidence is like a garment, you need to put it on each morning. Focus on being confident and not popular, popularity is a by product. List down all that you love about yourself, and each morning remind yourself just how awesome you are.You have to know and love yourself for you to exude admirable qualities. The mirror is your best friend. Practise gestures, expressions, speech and even how you walk in front of the mirror. Be confident when you are alone and you will be confident when you are with others.