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How can I get past my insecurities and trust in relationships (both with friends and my boyfriend)?

• I'm 24 and have had some things happen in my family life when I was younger. My Mum and Dad are still together but my Dad is a really aggressive person, he used to hit us as children and we were always really intimidated by him. My mum worked night shifts at the time so we hardly saw her and when she did hear my Dad raising his voice etc, she never did anything about it. Also, my Mum has been unfaithful to my Dad with 2 other people. Not sexually, but emotionally and these people are still in her life now, regardless of how much they've disrespected my Dad and ruined mine and my sisters childhood. My Dad's confronted this situation quite a few times (when he was drunk) and they'd always get in arguements but it never got resolved. I know that my insecurities and trust issues stem from these incidents but I don't know how to overcome them. My boyfriend (at the start of our r'ship) mentioned all the celebrities he fancied and how fit they were and it makes it really awkward for me to watch certain films with him if they're in it because I think he's thinking how fit she is when I'm sat right there next to him. Because I will never be able to look like that (unless I have plastic surgery). I never look at other men, because I don't want to. My boyfriend is enough. That's just how I am. I would never want to make him feel awful about himself and make him feel like he wasn't enough for me because he is. It may sound like I'm over reacting but these insecurities are taking over my life and me and my boyfriend are arguing a lot more because the issue never gets resolved and so it gets brought up every few months. How the hell do I get past this???

• Answer:

  Tell him about it, go: "I'm sorry but I really want to know why, because when we're at a movie or something, I always get the feeling you're thinking about other girl(s) (moviestars, singers etc.) I don;t know why but I feel really uncomfortable especially with my childhood and please..." Make a like, puppy dog face at him to show him you'tre telling the truth. If you get in an argument you score 0/10 points If he tries to kiss you, then you score 5/10 points If he tries to talk you through it than you score 10/10 points. (Be careful, this may lead to an argument) I hope my advice helps and if it doesn't I wish you the best :) Good Luck