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If one would like one's children to avoid one's mistakes, does it behoove one to fess up to said mistakes or..?

  • ...should one pretend they never happened? I just had an interesting conversation with my father where he admitted--at age 70--to having an affair with a married woman while in his twenties. Interestingly enough, he seems to think that I might suddenly need advice about such a situation. How does one decide whether to share or withhold one's past 'indiscretions' with one's (for the sake of simplicity, let's say "adult") children? -Occulty

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    Pretending is a bich to deal with, not having an outlet to someone, or purposely closing myself off to others due to my own mistakes, has caused nothing but unwanted and unnecessary pain. I've found my most loving relationships will understand when I fail, miserably even, and I do the same for them. Hell, they WANT to know my f*ck ups, that's what being close to someone is all about. Being comfortable around someone trusted is what I go by now, blood relation alone doesn't mean much to me, unfortunately.

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In general honesty is good, but between children and parents the TMI factor can outweigh the need for confession. If my stepdaughter has a situation that might benefit from my input, I might share an indiscretion or 2. But otherwise ... we're both better off with minimal information exchange.

Acorn

I wonder if he gave you that advice for your benefit, or because his conscience has been bothering him for 50 years. Probably a bit of both. I guess knowing the who, what and when is where wisdom comes into play..

Son of a Ren

I think it would depend on the nistake.If I made a mistake in how I did in parenting my child. I would talk to him and tell him Im sorry, but if it didnt involve yhem then no.

Tina

good question from experience i would say pretend they never happened although at 70 if one was saying to me things of a certain nature i could bring myself to forget what i heard as well.

lowwrider

I try to share with my girl the mistakes I've made. The truth is I need to wait for appropriate time In there lives. such as drugs or sex they are 15 -13 now. The questions they ask me are becoming more difficult to answer. I'm working very hard on honesty with them it seem to be working! Hell I dont know ask me in 6 years.

Lisa O

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