Virtual HS problems please help?

Visitation Pre-Trial Questions in Ohio, Please Help!?

• Me and my ex-bf have a 2.5 yr old son together. He saw my child on and off but my ex and his mom and mom's bf haven't seen him in about 2 months as I was tired of the effect it had on my son. We both live in Ohio btw. My ex filed for visitation and my pre-trial is on the 15th. I do not want visitation for many reasons (read them below). My son lives with me and my husband who has been around since he was about 16 months old and he'll be 3 next month. He is in a stable home and seems so much better off than going back and forth like he was to my ex's plus I've had a lot of problems with them. He is a deadbeat who doesn't work, he's a HS dropout, has a history of theft, domestic violence against me and other women, stalking, burgulary, etc. An investigator I talked to showed me video of his mother and her boyfriend driving up and down our road in private property. This scares me with his past that he will try to nab my child, steal from me, come physically hurt me or my husband. A friend of mine told me to get a restraining order at a domestic violence shelter for my ex and his mother harassing me and other members of my family with letters, emails, text messages, IM's, etc. I get scared they want to take custody of me so I quit responding to anything. Yet I don't think his mom's bf works, or his mom and my ex doesn't work so not sure how they would support my child anyways. Plus my son hasn't been there in over 2 months and never mentions my ex's name (he calls him dada and my husband daddy). Does getting a restraining order put on him before court do anything with setting up supervised visitation for the child? I don't want them around my child and I don't want them involved in his life. I also want to get my son's name change and possibly adopted so I don't want them to have visitation with him. He and his mother are mentally unstable and I don't want his image rubbing off on my son. He is a criminal convicted of many charges, in and out of jail, doesn't work, never got his GED, and I think my son is too young to be yo-yo'ed back and forth like a toy. Plus him and his mother harass me and my family and much of it is insults about me, my family, my husband, etc. If I HAVE to have visitation, I would want it to be supervised but the attorney I talked to told me I would have to pay it. Plus I don't want to drive (me and my ex live 50 miles away) being that he is not paying support and our money is tight as it is. Does Legal Aid do anything with slander and emotional distress? It's like a daily headache dealing with the new blog he writes online about me or letter my family gets. It's like they are trying to tear me and my family apart and hurt my new marriage. This is hard and stressful to me, my family, and my new marriage to deal with this drama along with the responsibility of keeping up a home and family. I don't want this situation to affect my marriage and family and I think they use my son as an excuse to harass me especially about things involving my personal life which have nothing to do with my parenting. His mother sent me over 1500 emails, wrote letters to family members locally and out of state, sent postcards degrading me to my mother's job stating I run a **ore house, etc. (totally untrue btw) as well as threats such as father's and grandparent rights from both of them. Her bf also calls to pick up my son and I don't want ANY of them contacting me. My ex already had 3 or 4 restraining orders placed against him-3 from ex's and one from an ex's new bf which was dropped, so I am hoping it will be easy to get. Please help!! How should I word things on the orders and I hope they will not allow visitation to my son. Anyone have any advice or been in a similar situation?? Here is background about my ex and his family: I had a son who is 2.5 with my ex-bf and I am going through a stressful situation. My ex is a crazy, mentally unstable, high school drop out and I've had nothing but problems with him and his family (especially after I found someone else). They tape record phone calls, video tape you and take pics of your car, home, etc. get background reports on you, etc. I have over 1500 emails or so from my ex's mother even after me and her son broke up. I want to change my son's last and middle names (I was stupid and gave him my ex's last name and part of his 1st and middle in my son's middle name). I am now married to a great guy who is a great father to my son. My husband works 7 days a week to support us. I graduated college last summer and work part time looking for a full time job. My ex is convicted of burgulary, menancing by stalking (to the the girl he left me for lol) and felony theft. I was called by a senior special agent (criminal investigations) to talk to him and he showed me video of my ex's mother and her bf driving up and down our road and I moved 70 miles away from my mom's house and it's 50 miles or so from my ex's with my husband and the

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  I live in Ohio right now and unless you got a good lawyer then the judge will do whatever they feel like doing. As many times I been in court over child custody issues and so forth very rare have I ever seen a judge ever rule on what is best for a child. Look up on Fox news and others the history of problems after problems with the courts in this state when it comes to children. With that being said what matters at the end of the day who has the better lawyer. The better lawyer will win and that's a fact! So it boils down to who has the most money and the best lawyer to pay for one. If you want a good court system and good legal assistance to keep this wack job and his family away from your child move to another state! Because they will give him visitation regardless what you say if he has never been in a mental ward or anything like that on meds and so forth it's really just your word against theirs and the judge writes it off as ok well they don't get along so they are just saying bad things about one another. The judge will look at it like is it fair the child can't see it's father because your now married to another man that is being a father to your child. Just because your now married does not have a thing to do with your child and your ex. They will tell you that when you go to court. You have to have police reports that all this happened or it will not stand in court. So to some it all up you got to have hard core prof that all this has went on. Letters from doctors the police dept and witness statements. Even people that can come into court and test to a judge what they know and have seen. It does not matter you found someone else that has no baring on the child and his real father. The father is by law aloud to have his rights and see his child even if it's supervised visitation. The father has rights just like you do and I know how bad it sucks hun trust me my ex has joint custody of my daughter. He is a FREAK! With serious and I do mean serious issues. I'm moving out of Ohio and plan on starting another child custody case in the state I am moving too. Ohio is a last cause!