37 weeks pregnant and my husband left me?

• I'm 37 weeks pregnant and my husband left me, this isnt the first time he has left me. I tried my best to be the best wife i could be to him, I worked 4 to 5 days a week and came home to clean house, keep dishes washed, do all his laundry, cook for him, the house would always be clean. Everytime I cooked for him, he just picked over it like he didnt want to eat it. He always complained about paying the bills, he didnt want to have sex with me at all, i begged him to have sex with me and cuddle and he just pushed me away, and it made me feel worthless. This whole pregnancy has been hell, this is suppose to be the happiest days of our lives but he doesnt seem to care about anything, he likes to drink, dip, smoke and he cusses at me, calls me names, yells at me. The first time he left me is when it was our 5 months bc he was unhappy and i begged him not to go but he went anyways and he stayed gone for two weeks, i would call him, text him and he just ignored me and the second time he left was like a month later and i found on his email where he sent nude pictures to a girl and talking sexual to herm when i seen that my heart dropped, my heart was beating so fast, not only did he do that but i had his pw to his bank account and seen where he was staying in hotels and paying for dating websites. My heart was so broken bc i love this guy so much and i never thought he would do this after we married. I mean i knew he looked at porn b4 we got married but he apologized for hurting me and he got saved and got rid of his internet and things were going great until two months after we got married he bought a new phone with internet and i was so disappointed but i knew i needed to trust him, so i did until i found out he was buying sext me, talking to girls, i mean that hurt me alot. Well anyways, ever since he came back we only had sex 3 times in 5 months. We are suppose to be newly weds. Ive begged for sex and he pushed me away and we would be sitting in the living room for hours not speaking, he was very distance toward me, he would go into the bathroom with his phone and stay for about a hour. He would go to bed without telling me he loved me, he barely kissed me goodnight, recently he has been working over time alot so he says, he wouldnt come home until 5am when he is suppose to be home at 3am. He would always leave two hours b4 his schedule time. He never called me to let me know he was working over, the only way i knew was when i stayed up waiting for him and i had to text him to ask him where he was. One night we were in the bed and he called me by another girls name, but says he cant help what he does in his sleep. Ive had tons of doctors appt and he has only been to two. He told me the only way he would be happy living with me is if he could dip, drink, smoke, etc... I tried to go to counseling and he refuses he says that he doesnt have a problem and that he doesnt believe anything the counselor would say. He stopped going to church with me, Everything i loved, he hated.... I had a baby shower not long ago and i showed him the baby stuff and he acted like he didnt care, well one night when he was in the bathroom, i notice that he left his phone in the bedroom and i decided to check it out, i went to his email that automatically came up and he had sent nude pictures of himself and of his face to some cragslist post to a girl describing himself, and he put that he would hope to see her pics soon, at that point i got up and i asked him what was all this about, and he just stood there acting like it was no big deal, Ive had enough of it,. Ive been so stressed out, ive cried so much this whole marriage, bc i really want my family together. I always prayed back then that i would find the perfect guy that would treat me right and i thought it was him bc he would always make me feel good and he seemed so happy and we always talked about the future and how many kids we would have, everything but now that i look at it, i think God had better for me. He just told me what i wanted to hear. His dad left him when he was four and he would always tell me, he wanted to have what he didnt have, a mother and father together as one. I'm 37 weeks and 3 days and he has been gone for almost a week, and he hasnt contacted me about his baby nor has his mom. When he left he ended up taking some of the baby clothes that he bought and the stroller and carseat that his mom bought for me at my shower. He left me with all the bills, He knew i was about to take my maternity leave but yet he left me with all the bills, no food. no money.. I had some money left over from my baby shower and ended up buying me geoceries, and my gma is going to buy my the stroller and carseat. I just can't believe he would do this to me 3 weeks b4 my due date or this whole marriage. i'm so hurt, like i had plans to have him and his mom in the room while i give birth but now idk what to do.

• Answer:

  Courtney, I believe things happen for reasons regardless if we know at the time just what they are or don't. He definitely is NOT the type of person I would choose to spend the rest of my life with. I don't believe you would either. He's shown you clearly just what kind of a disrespectful person he is. Doesn't even have respect for his own child no less! He's just plain no good. I believe he left you for the simple reason to show you you deserve far better in your life. Regardless of what you want, what you've hoped for, you're NOT going to get it from him. Honey, you do badly need to go forward with your life & leave him in your past. Stop accepting the unacceptable from him. There IS a special someone who is perfect for you, you just have not met him yet but you WILL when you least expect it. When you do, you'll know the reason this was NOT meant to be. You need to go forward with your life, put him in your past & bury him deep. Make sure you collect child support from him & take ALL that belongs to you that you deserve. Keep going forward with your life along with your beautiful baby you'll soon have. Be thankful you'll soon have someone to share your life with. Someone who will love you & give you back your love in return. The sooner you accept him for who & what he is, the better off you'll be. Continue going forward with your life, honey, the best is yet to come & it WILL...:)