PLANNED PARENTHOOD OPINIONS?

What is up with many people utilizing forced parenthood because of their personal choices?

• a woman can get an abortion without the mans permission to get rid of a child she does not want,so why can't a man do the same? i ask because i have some people i know going through this now and seem to think it is not right for a man to go to court to challenge his rights to go away in court. i know people who have had it granted without ground for why they want to do it,then they ended up with not having to pay cs or being responsible for the child in any way,so i know it is legally possible in any state with a good lawyer. the woman i am talking about wants to call the man a deadbeat for not wanting any kids with her when she knew it from the start. he told her this in the beginning of the relationship and they used condoms each time. she took it upon herself to stop taking her pills because she did not feel like taking them daily.(her own choice). then the condom must have broken at some point, she tells him she is pregnant and he is angry. in my opinion i think she did it on purpose, because regardless of your religious or personal views, we all have choices in life. she chooses to keep the kid and did not consider the father, then i feel like it should be all on her financially. why yell it is my choice and my body, but you cry that you are too broke to pay for a kid alone? some people do not think when yelling these crazy things and plot to get pregnant on purpose if you ask me. my opinion is that you cannot lay down with everyone, you should not pin a kid on a man or woman who does not want it because we all have choices in our life, it is legally wrong to force someone into parenthood, and kids suffer in the end by making the unwilling parent pay for child support because the child will be neglected and treated badly in the end. if you can prevent all of this then women should consider the father's opinions before forcing a child on him. men should offer other options to help the woman out if you agree to abort or keep the child in every way,do not just leave them for the wolves. running to child support will not make the man want you or the kid, it only makes things worse for you and the kid(s). ( i am not speaking about parents who agree to go with child support rather than exchanging money, parents who agree with going to court together, marriages that dissolve unwillingly for both parties, planned children and situations where someone planned the child and decided one day that they did not want to be a parent) please do not think i am downing any of these situations because child support is very appropriate and signing rights away is in appropriate to get away from what you purposely planned and agreed on in regards to the child.

• Answer:

  So he was upfront with her that he doesn't want kids. Was she upfront that she doesn't believe in abortion AMD/or won't have one? If she was and he still slept with her, then he made a choice to take that risk. And you know his side. My ex tells his friends the same story. He doesn't tell them how I refused to work on having a baby, how I didn't want to marry him, and how he used the combined facts that I would never abort or have another child out of wedlock to get his way by poking holes in the condom. It worked , I agreed to marry him for the baby. I got lucky since he fell in love with someone else and left so I had to adjust what I would do. He just claims to me that it was unfair that the adjustment wasn't my feelings on abortion. While he tells his friends that he didn't leave after cheating on me with a woman he married a month after I had his child (who he allegedly met after leaving me, but who mentioned on Facebook spending several nights with him, but whatev...). He left when I refused to abort his child after saying I would. Unfortunately for my ex and your friend, the reality is both men had sex. Both could assume that the woman could get pregnant and neither could assume she would abort it. Some men are lucky and the woman does. Some men know their partners well enough to know with certainty what will happen. These men took the risk. You play, you pay.