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Other women flirt with my husband, but he does stop them. This leads them on, right?

  • Not to brag, but my husband is very good looking. In not...lol. Other women are constantly flirting with him, even right in front of me. Most of the time is women he doesnt know, because it will happen out in public. My neighbor has a 2 year old son that we babysit sometimes. This morning when she dropped him off, my husband answered the door and she thought i was asleep. She said to my husband, 'Oohhhh daddy, arent we dressed up nice?" She said it in a flirting voice. But then in a plain voice she said, "Wheres your wife? Asleep?" All my husband said was , "No, she getting dressed." This reaaly hurts my feelings. He says that he doesnt flirt back, which IS true, he DOESNT flirt back. However, he doesnt stop the other women from flirting with him, or he never says , "Sorry, i'm married." Wouldn't that lead them on if he lets them flirt with him? I know if i was single and flirted with a guy, and they didnt stop it, i would take it as a sign that they like me! I

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    well you've answered your own question really; he cheated and you dont trust him to say no. You chose to forgive him and stay (obviously) so you're going to have to get over those feelings. You cant stay with him and then hold it over his head the rest of your life, you wouldnt be happy and neither would he. If you havent already gone to couples counseling I would do that. Staying in a marriage with someone who has committed adultery numerous times shows the depth of your insecurity and lack of self confidence. You dont have to deal with it, but you are choosing to. And since you are choosing that, make him go with you to the therapy and work through it. Regardless if he had cheated or not, the flirting is an issue. People can say that 'married not dead' bullsh|t all they want to but its disrespectful and unnecessary. Talking is one thing, coming onto to someone expressing sexual interest is another. Given his prior track record though, he should be more sensitive and mindful of these situations and rectify them as soon as they arise. Him not doing so is signaling to you (and others) that he hasnt learned from his ways and isnt really sorry about it. He's not trying to ease your mind or remove the behaviors that could escalate into another affair. He did screw up and should be kissing your feet and trying to make you feel better any chance he gets. Give the counseling a try, if it doesnt get any better after that then you will again have to decide if youre willing to put up with him and his groupies for the rest of your marriage.

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When a woman comes up to him in public you look them in the eye and say why yes my husband is a good looking man don't ya think? Not only are you telling them he is married you tell them you know what they are thinking most will back off. As for your neighbor.I wouldn't trust her. She knows you and wants you to watch her son and flirt with your hubby. I would tell her sorry isn't going to happen.

ladylady4470

He's not flirting back. If the other women are too stupid to notice he's not interested in them, that's their problem. He's not doing anything wrong.

comeundone4162

get over it..he is married, not dead

Billie

I think you're wrong. Your husband is doing nothing wrong, and he is not angry at being flirted with. You are the one who is bothered by their behavior. Therefore, since you are the one who has the problem with it, it falls to you to do something about it. That said, I don't even see why it matters to you. We men who are married to attractive women have to put up with it constantly, because, believe me, men flirt with good looking women a lot more than women flirt with good looking men. Men talk up my wife all the time, but she's with me, so I just smile and tell her it's no wonder to me they're attracted to her.

Happy-2

wrong...wrong....wrong.....your wrong about everything.....its your job to stop the flirting.....if he hasnt done it yet he never will...

fathergivemelegs

HMMM either you trust him or you don't....seems to me you don't. If he is not flirting back I would say you are blowing out of proportion....i'm sure there will be alot of people who have a different point of view on this however. If a guy flirted with you it would probably feel really good, which is what it probably does for your husband....but he is not flirting back or anything so what is the problem? Jealousy can be a breaker in a relationship, especially when it is not warranted. Good Luck

Bite me

your husband is probably flattered with these other women flirting with him. he also probably thinks as long as he doesn't flirt back that it doesn't do any harm, even though it bothers you. how often do you flirt w/ him? just b/c you are married doesn't mean that you can't flirt w/ him and chase him like b4 you guys were married!

gorgeous

It does not sound like he is leading on at all. In the example you cited, about him all dressed up, he could have said, "well, I knew you were coming over and wanted to look my best." If he says anything to discourage them, he will just look vain and defensive. If you say anything, you will look terribly insecure. All of this is about the type of flirting you used as an example. If it gets directly sexual, I would alter my opinion.

Wolfithius

WOW Gee I'm not sure your going to like my answer but here goes. Your husbands married NOT dead, hell I smile when a woman flirts with my husband, slip my arms through his and wink at her telling her something in a joking way of "Sorry he's all mine" or "Sorry I'm not sharing him" LOL. Don't try to make him feel guilty that he's a hottie. Be proud that he's YOUR'S you know. Now you have to remember that looking and flirting are just in peoples nature and alot of the time it keeps people knowing their still attractive. Don't you feel good when a man takes a look at you or says "damn she's hot" when you walk by? Hell I know I do , when a man openly flirts with me or looks at me my husband just smiles and puts his arm around me. This is your insecurity, he's obviously very much in love with YOU right? So try not to get your feelings hurt, dwelling on this will only lead to problems in your marriage. Right now it's just that you say it hurts your feelings BUT one day soon every time he walks out the door your going to think , well I wonder if a womans flirting and will he cheat on me. That's going to hurt your relationship big time. Good Luck hon a think of it this way, I'm sure you would rather have a man that women want to look at as opposed to a man no woman would look at!!!

Angel B

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