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Porn? let it go when husband watches or what?

  • ok so my husband would watch porn mainly in the mornings when im still asleep and well kinda hiding it from me. ive spoken to him over and over again about i don't care that he watches it but i do care that he hides it from me. then it was still going, so then it came to the point where i would cry no wait, sob about him watching that. its kinda like what the hell im not conceited but i know im not ugly im pretty damn tempting, you have me in the other room! why watch porn, and trust me when i say there is NOT a problem with our sex life (well from his end). so after about 4 promises (broken) he would always say he promises he would stop, but obviously hasn't. it bothers me because when we met my body was hot, people would ask me to model (but i'd rather go to school) and now that we have a son im not huge or even considered thick, but the baby did leave some more meat on my bones, it can easily be fixed by exercising but i don't seem to get motivated because im getting depressed that he looks at porn and watches other girls have sex i don't like that i don't want him doing that at all, i think its childish at his age (29/30) especially like i said when he has me in the other room. so after when i THOUGHT it stopped, we moved to a new apartment and pretty much agreed to start a new greater better life in here. then literally about a week, almost but not even two weeks later, (its a two story apt) i come walking down the stairs to use the restroom and i catch him this time with a magazine in his hand and i know you can guess where the other was occupied at and right when he saw me he literally jumped and tried to play it off, it wasSOo awkward i ran into the bathroom thankfully it was right in-front of the stairs and just sat there with my heart beating so fast i was to shocked and upset to even cry. he knows how much i hate that, oh yea i forgot to mention that when i caught him watching porn online he would say he watches it for fun, but then i would tell him well show me i want to laugh too, and he wouldn't CAN YOU SAY BULLSHITTER!!! anyways but watching a scened porn act online is totally different from looking at a magazine in my case, worse. it wasn't even a playboy type magazine, it was a tattoo magazine but inside for some reason they had these girls half naked (might as well have been). and that's what he was looking at. you see im still upset even though it was like a month ago (but i never brought it up anymore don't want drama) because what im thinking is that ok if you did that to porn at least its scened, doesn't make it better but you know, but a magazine, that just means he wants her to do what ever scene he was imagining in his mind to him. and that's not COOL at all in my book. how can i let this go. should i let it go? why is it when i try to talk to him about it he doesn't want to talk about it but then here's the funny thing then he ends up being the one that's upset at ME?? what should i do, im usually the one giving my friends advice my damn phone might as well be a hot-line but this time i need the advice. and please let it be good......he promised to stop but even though ihaven'tt seen him do anything since then, thatdoesn'tt mean it shows me hestoppedd since he did do it behind my back the ones i caught were just luck, do you think he means it this time, he knew this time i was really upset so for the first time in 6 1/2 years being with him he bought me flowers because i was upset, but i told him itdoesn'tt make it better.

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    Don't just let it go!!!! I was with a guy for 2 years, and the last year of our relationship he did nothing but watch porn and we NEVER had sex. i was too fat for him (ya 130 is too fat....jerk....) he promised and promised...if he is breaking that promise what other promises is he breaking or other things he is lying about? porn is disgusting and stupid. there is nothing good about what he is doing and no excuse. did you ever ask him why he does it? my ex finaly told me after we broke up that it became an addiction...he would be watching tv with me...see some hot girl get all bothered...then go into the bathroom to "take a dump" for 30 minutes. i hated him! i told him go get out of my life or get rid of porn...he now lives miserable with a cheating girl that puts up with the addiction. and that is all it is. is there a certain type of porn he looks at? maybe a fetish or fantasy you can help him out with? if not then sorry hun....LEAVE HIM. you cannot live your life out every day in misery. it is better to be alone than to be alone in a relationship!!! even with a kid. work out....FOR YOURSELF. he should love you even without you being perfect. especially after having HIS kid....but no this stuff isn't to just suck it up and deal with...dont do it...put your foot down. if he looks and does stuff to get off with other girls even if they arn't right there, what will happen if one day they will be right there and the temptation is real???? oh he will say "it's diferent" um...not really... so figure it out what his issue is..if he wont do somthing about it to make you happy then move on because it will only get worse.

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I actually skimmed though the whole thing and all I can say is that... Guys will watch porn. Don't take it so seriously. It sounds like the big deal you make of it is ruining your relationship, not the porn.

Max

what the hell are u on....valium

good god...do you think anyone in their right mind would read this nonsense?? ask one or two lines questions.

Zanthus

Lets pretend a lion can talk. And he says" I just want to lick the bloody raw steak I promise my true wild nature will stay suppressed" then the lion wolf down the steak and starts stalking all living flesh in arms reach. Now he's out of control! You husband is consumed and addicted and the only way bring this family killer to a halt is to make him enroll in a sexual addiction program. Good luck

GodsGeneral

To be honest, It is just porn. He isn't actually cheating. But I feel like since it bothers you he should respect your wishes and at least wait until hes alone, or whatever guidelines you have set. Sometimes you have to just let things go.

Manda♡

well i heard pretty much the first half of this but I didn't read it all because its too much,but if your married already then he shouldn't be watching porn.The only thing he should be wanting to see is you and he should care about only seeing you only.Now if he is a boyfriend then yea i guess its okay but his not and if he was just a teenager then yea they are going to be interested but that's not true either so you need to talk to him.

Raven

i dont care who u are or where u are pron is worse then drugs. cause it not only hurts him but u and your family. it puts women down that if we dont have size dd breast we are worth less. and if we arent a size 0 we are fat.

mleanne13

1 word....WOW! Ok, here goes.....First of all it's stupid porn!!!...what are you getting so upset for? It's his fantasy...yes...even the magazine stuff! There is nothing wrong with a man or woman fantasizing being with other men or women. Would you rather him look at a mag and jerk the chicken or actually go out and try and get him some porn trash? I think more of the problem ....now dont get mad at me for saying this....is with you. Your self esteem is a bit low maybe because you don't have that bod you did pre-kid. Let me tell ya something....dudes don't care if you put a few lbs. on. As long as you still do the dirty and keep it fresh they love you and your little extra padding! You said your sex life is great so you really have nothing to worry about! I think seriously you should find your motivation and feel good about yourself again. Join a gym...take the kid for a run a few times a week....do whatever it takes for you to feel good about your body again! I think if you gained some self esteem back you wouldnt be so worried about the porn stuff. Seriously....the porn is normal. It's HIS thing and there is nothing wrong with it. I think you shouldn't badger him about. He is going to find ways of doing it anyway. Let him do it.

Melissa C

I haven't got the mental energy to read your essay, but in answer to your actual question, no.

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