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What is so great about marriage and divorce?

What are your biggest gripes about the Marriage & Divorce "community"?

  • Many times I find myself starting to answer a question and then quitting. And the reason I quit is generally because either I think the poster is trolling, the poster is only looking for validation, I have no sympathy for the poster, or I simply have nothing helpful to contribute. Other times, and this is childly selfish, I think the poster is unlikely to choose a best answer, let alone mine, and my posting is only hurting my "best answer percentage". Who cares? Well, I do to some extent. We are taking time and effort to respond to someone, and they don't bother to give someone a deserved nod for trying to help them out. It's pretty rude, really. I also seldom see people flagging posts as interesting, though a few (certainly not a majority) are fairly interesting. I'm being fairly hypocritical on that score, but I'm trying to improve. So.. what things irk you about your experiences here in Marriage & Divorce, or on Y!A in general?

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    In marriage and divorce, I'd say that the thing that irks me most is that people automatically assume the worst about everyone. I once asked a question about my hubby sleeping in front of the TV every night, totally innocent, non-sexual question, because our relationship is great otherwise, and you wouldn't believe the answers I got back!! Some were good, but others were downright rude. Go figure. Things that irk me in general: 1. Trolls 2. People who email you with nasty comments simply because they don't agree with a well-thought out answer 3. People that don't close out their questions by picking someone as the best answer and it ends up in voting....forever. 4. People who use text message short speak on here and you have to really try to understand what they're saying. But, in general, I have to agree with you totally and wholeheartedly. I really hate the afternoons on here when the kiddies get out of school. It gets really obnoxious then.

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that many of the questions aren't actually about marriage and divorce. way too many start out with "my boyfriend" and i always think, okay there is a singles and dating section!

JM

I agree. I won't answer if it's too long and drawn out. I hate trolls trying to get off on sex questions and answers. And I hate when 12-18 year olds answer marriage and divorce questions because they have no f'ing clue what they are talking about and it shows. They need to stay on Singles and Dating or better yet, do some damn homework. Look at Fabulass...I rest my case!

nonameblonde

I don't like the trolls, nor do I like the kids that want to come in and talk about "does she like me" or other dating crap. I don't like the skanks that come in talking about cheating on their spouse or sleeping with a married person and then just reporting all the answers they don't like--what do they think we're going to say? Lastly, I don't like when random people report your Q or A and it gets deleted for no reason whatsoever. Sometimes I think the people at YA don't even bother reading what's reported. Good question :)

jemmamomma

The Trolls and the weirdos who post controversial questions in order to seek a "rise" out of us.

Anji

My biggest gripe is the unbelievable amount of judgment being flung all over the place. Basically, anyone who does not support monogamous, heterosexual, nuclear families only is supposedly a piece of sh*t who doesn't have the right to breathe the same air. I get very tired of it and it makes me sad. Especially because I know a lot of the people making those judgments are most likely uneducated bitter housewives who sit in front of their computers all day long with nothing else to do but pass judgments on others. Well, you asked. :)

justagirl

When people dont read your WHOLE question and assume things.

sapphire

You pretty much nailed it. I still respond but at the end of the day I'm not sure why I bother. I mean really, if your husband or wife cheats on you do you really need to ask "What Should I Do, I'm so confused"? Come on brain surgeon, divorce his ***. Stop being a puss who is afraid to move on. It's all the same but I guess I like the train wreck.

Gee

My biggest gripe: the sexist attitudes women think they can project, but God forbid if a man display attitude about a woman. I am sick of sexism that women flaunt daily but scream sexist pig as fast as they can if a man does it. If you want sexism to stop, STOP BEING SEXIST.

Noone i

I hate questions like, "Should I leave? He beats me, cheats on me, and calls me fat." I just want to reach through the monitor and slap someone.

Don

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