Can husband refuse to buy toilet paper, control all homelife (see details)?

Check yourself into a domestic violence shelter with your daughters. Just make sure he doesn't know that you are going to do it ahead of time. Call the 800 number below to learn how to move out safely. Delete this question after you are done asking it (rather than choosing a best answer) and then close this y!a account...

I finally got through on your other question. Not sure why Yahoo is having problems with their "unavailable" message. Another thing I wanted to add is this. There is a person that I have found very inspiring named Rhonda Britten. Her #1 book is "Fearless Living". She also has phone workshops along with people that have worked her program an became a counselor. A sister in our hall is one and I have been to a few sessions. Look into it. Hopefully he will see a need to go also. Here are some links: http://www.fearlessliving.org/ http://www.thespeakersgroup.com/speakers/communication/rhonda-britten/ She is on Facebook and I get emails. Most problems have to do with communication. Sometimes one person "thinks" they know what the other person is thinking when they say something but in actuality, it is not always the case. Learning how to understand another person and how to say things correctly is paramount. Not that I have all the answers.

This is truly sad, especially if your husband professes to be a servant of God. He is in need of serious readjustment. But it is impossible to give counsel from afar, without knowing ALL the pertinent details. Still, it is important to protect yourself and your sanity. Every Christian has that right. Perhaps the best course of action is to consult the elders and mature sisters in your congregation. They would be closer to the situation and would be most probably in a better position to give you the effective help that you need. No one has a right to oppress anyone else, whether physically or emotionally, and you are within bounds to seek whatever social and legal help that is available.

I know you prefer me to be blocked but I feel so bad at your question and at your situation. Your Husband is abusing his authority over you and you are being abused and neglected. No Christian Man behaves this way. I also was raised under an abusive Christian Elder. My abuse was sexual yours is emotional. I am sorry that you are in this situation and I hope for your sake and the sake of your children that they allow you to leave. Legally you can leave and he has to pay for your support. I have seen this backfire with Witness wives where the Elders accuse the wife of not being a good enough wife but if what you say is true then your husband should be disfellowshipped for abuse.

You MUST be understanding as he is clearly head of household. As he no doubt began the rationing on himself, it's no wonder he is full of $#!+ dear.

I honestly am not sure where to start with all of this. The first question is, why have you stayed for so long up to now? I think that you're so used to this extreme mistreatment, that your perception of reality has actually become skewed over time. Anybody hearing about your situation form outside of it will know that it's incredible cruel and degrading. You don't even know what life should be like for you, because you have been accepting this treatment from a man that is obviously pathalogically driven for so long. You should immediately contact a lawyer, and if you are not able to use the phone or physically go to one, then you're definitely a prisoner, in which case you should call the police and contact a woman's shelter. Social services should be able to help you as well. You will only get help and improve your situation if you are willing to take the steps.

You are being abused in one of the worst ways - with religion as his crutch. God does not want any of His children to suffer. Your husband is a sociopath- he is mentally sick, and making YOU suffer because of it. Call a domestic abuse hotline in your area and get OUT OF THERE!!

If there was a situation that was tough to live in, it is your situation. Remember, Jehovah is your rock. Pray to him and pour out all your feelings about your situation. I know you probably looked from your husbands side of things. You need to talk to your husband as well. Your husband should not be so controlling. Leading is one thing. Controlling is another. I like some of the advice from others on this forum. Handkerchiefs is a great idea. A one time purchase. My wife is a coupon collector. I do not think we have paid full price for TP for the longest time. You can find great deals. There are times when you can find coupons for TP, get double the price for them and get the TP for free. Stress is a problem for everybody. It can be a strong reason for health problems including high blood pressure. You need to look for ways to bring down your stress levels. Although your husband is head of the household, you should have say in many things. Find ways to bring down the costs. Do not play the blame game. If you do so, your stress levels will go up. Solve the issue. 8 cats could be the reason why you are having issues with your breathing. I love my cat but we could not break it of pottying in the corner so it now lives outside and comes in to visit. When there is an accident, we use those bags we get from the grocery store in cleaning up the mess. Make a list of ideas to bring down the cost of living. This is probably why your husband is having stress issues. Coupons do work. We buy food for the fraction of what it would run without coupons. It is just smart to shop this way no matter what your financial status is. When you get the list developed, share it with your husband and children. Then implement it. One bit of advice. Do not take anything away from your husband with your list. Ask him what he can do to add to the list. Ask the kids what they can do to add to the list. Remember, the family must work together to solve any issue. I hope the advice I gave you is sound. I also hope the conversation your husband has with the elders is productive. Always trust in Jehovah! with brotherly love, Gary

Maybe you should provide some more information about your religion, or change the title to "Witness in need of help". I'd like to provide some sort of advice but I don't understand how to help, because I don't see why you can't just get a divorce if he treats you so badly. ESPECIALLY if he's making you sick, and turning your children against you. LEAVE. As fast as you can. Take the girls with you.