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Question on divorce ,Update and concern ?

• I want to thank all of you for you have helped me With advices to not think of Divorce as a solution.Now I am more calm and determined to make my marriage work.It been only 3 or 4 days that My husband and I made peace and Vows to new behaviors,meaning he will be helping in more around the house after all he understood i am not doing this for me but for us.he even add that it was fair enough that he gives a helping hand realizing what i do is to much for one person to handle. Unfortunately this evening we had an issue we did not agree upon,simple stuff about something we need to buy.He didn't want to take my concern into consideration for this particular item.So i ask him to explain why we should do as he say? he didn't make the effort to attend to my request.Instead he goes on saying that all i want is nag and that I should just avoid confrontation by doing what he said. i can reassure you that i don't nag!!! what I do is ask question,or need him to clarify something answering my questions.he is the one not allowing the dialogue to flow ,After a moment he will be accusing me of nagging..Time and time I told him that only if we talk over issue and by ,communicating ,only we can solve our differences.All my attempts to have this particular case under control have failed.Even with the housework and me going out there to look a way for extra income,he often wouldn't listen to my concerns when I had them .and won't consider the fact when I complaint of being tired.he will say little things like women never tired,women never give up, as if I was a robot always on the go!!Of course the plan the go to family& seek counseling still in place ,But what do I do while I am waiting fo us to have all the money together for the trip and all.....I am starting to realize we are just not compatible. For very long time now since we are together ,we still can't figured out how to fight fair.Or I should say he can't figured that out.because often time he failed to understand I have ideas.thoughts and feelings too well.he is not a monster ,what I put here are just the things that borders me about him and I seek how to fix.But for the most part,he the one who always turn things around .ignoring my feelings and what i have to say and than wonder why we are not getting along.Any Help will be greatly appreciated.I kept hope after time we will get better .NOW I don't know what to do?Ironically more than ever after reading your answers on my previous questions i am convinced I should not divorce him.But how do I do this? any other way around this issue ? Thank you.

• Answer:

  You have to pick you battles. choose only the ones most important to you. They others are most likely small and not worth you time. You both still have to better your Communication skills. Sound like when you both talk. You are using the hot word buttons. Try to reword it to come across less accusing. Less YOU OR ME it should be US and WE you both together are ONE as husband and wife. You both go on the defensive to quickly.