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How to break up my ex-gf of ten months with her new "boyfriend" who isnt official, and who i dont know?

• I've heard from a bunch of ppl that shes dating some new guy, but i have absolutely no idea who this guy is aside from the fact that 1- its not on facebook, 2- hes clearly using her whereas i still love her, 3- she wouldnt be with him if her parents hadnt made her dump me (cuz im "too short" wtf!!), and 4- he hangs out with all black ppl and gets booze with her late at night (my friend saw her with 3 black guys and the one white guy- her guy- at 711 at 2 am). Aside from those details I have no idea about him. Any general (or specific), but effective, ideas on how to get her to realize hes using her, get them broken up, and to find out WHO THE HELL HE IS? Lol I was 4th in states for wrestling, there was a reason she doesnt want me knowing this guys name lmao. But im honestly not gonna hurt him. Why? Cuz i know women, and that would turn her off more. She would think im psycho clingy and desperate. Im in love, not clingy or desperate. Ive been dumped by her for a month now, and i already had a girlfriend since then (dumped her last week). Im just admitting to myself what ive known the past 10 months, i was in love. Apparently she was in love cuz she said so, but shes certainly having an easier time moving on and seeing other ppl (maybe its the fact her mom gives her a car, a house, food, college, etc and takes that all away if she finds out shes seeing me) =================================== With that said, i got a car and 2 great jobs since the breakup, so i know her mom wont catch her hanging with me this time. its a long story but she wont. to clarify: i called my ex today and she blew me off completely. she told her parents she wanted me to leave her alone. but i actually sent her a message that was both cool, chill, confident, sweet, honest, and upfront, AND positive (saying how id changed and what id changed, the car, jobs, etc) and i offered to buy her dinner to meet up. So it wasnt like i was being a d*ck. I didnt insult her or beg her or anything like that. What should i do??? (and dont say quit, cuz i wont! lol)

• Answer:

  You can't break up her new relationship. Only she or the other guy will. Second, if she doesn't want you, why force her back in? Spend time looking for someone else. She's not worth the effort. Finally, you're acting foolish and insecure. Living well's the best revenge. If she sees you with other girls, like a lot of them, and she see's you being pawed by other girls like heap goods at a flea market; guess what? She'll get jealous and realize she's not all that and a bag of chips. Which means, someone else will think you're special, but you won't think she's special anymore. Which is why I'm telling you, its time to move on and find better for yourself. She's not worth it.