Comfort zone issues in marital relationship?

hi, Myself and my hubby are not at all intimate. When i try to attract him via methods wearing lingerie and other stuff, he smiles and i am unable to respond. i am scared to go closer to him as he has rejected me several times. he has never initiated anything and keeps blaming me for all the mistakes. He has had an affair recently and we had lots of issues coping up with it, I am worried on how to make things better Please advice
Answer:

Hi love well first things first; IS he really no longer having an affair?...are you sure?...the second thing is, has he still feelings for the other lady concerned? if yes,then you will need to give him space to deal with this and it can take a few months. the other thing is that perhaps you need to "wear the trousers" for a while. go out with your friends,dress up,hair and make up looking the biz and go out.show him youre still outgoing and attractive.the fact youre going out may well rekindle his interest. if he 'throws "at you "are you having an affair?"...then tell him he can trust you but he has to pull his weight emotionally in the marriage too. sounds like youre doing all the chasing...dont make it too easy for him hun, youre special too and its time he wised up a little.

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