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How can I be more outgoing?

How can i be more outgoing?

  • im a very shy person a lot of people think im weird when i first meet them because i dont talk much i just find it so hard to talk to people i can never think of things to say ive always wanted to be outgoing but it seems like even when i try to be outgoing i just cant i would love to be talkative and have many friends but i just cant seem to be comfortable with being loud and talking to everyone the last boy i dated was really outgoing and said he wished i could be outgoing he would say im such a pretty girl and if i could only be outgoing but i dont know i just couldnt do it for some reason people really intimidate me especially outgoing girls i feel like they are better than me so i just stay quiet i get very intimidated by them i just want to be happy and outgoing and have many friends but its difficult to change my personality this is why im depressed

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    I was shy too in high school, then was forced to be more outgoing in college. That was when I finally realized that if I was going to make any friends there I would need to reach out to people. Now no one believes I was ever shy! First of all, fake it until you make it. You've seen how more outgoing people are interesting and engaging. They keep their facial reactions moving along to whatever they are hearing, not just a flat stare. They use their hands. They stand up and move around instead of sitting still. A good rule of thumb is to mirror the actions and facial reactions of the person you are talking to. That way you appear to change naturally from "I'm so sorry" to "That's exciting" before you have even caught up with what they said. Just keep that at the forefront of your mind when in a group situation. Secondly, start conversations. An easy way to do this is to look at the person you want to talk to and ask a question about them based on what they are wearing or doing. Even if you don't care one flip about what they are reading, asking what it is can lead to a more interesting conversation later - and TADA you appear outgoing. Thirdly, listen to them. If you asked them a question about themselves, odds are they want to talk about it. Instead of jumping in with your observations and critiques, hang back, let them talk, and when they wind down, ask more questions about whatever they were talking about. Basically, you are interviewing them to see how passionate they are about their interests. And the more you know about them, the easier it will be to keep talking to them. Good luck and hang in there. It gets easier with practice. Kinda like piano.

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Compliments are a great ice breaker. You can always find something on a person to compliment - clothes or jewelry or hair. Smile a lot and make eye contact.

♠ THAT GIRL ♠

I used 2 B the same way, and trust me it doesnt make u feel good but all u have 2 do is dont do things u normally do, laugh a lot,talk 2 people that u dont ever think about talking 2, try going a club or something at ur school, go 2 parties, and the last thing is 2 just shout as loud as u can(somewhere no one can see u) Be U and Be HAPPY!!!

Shauniqua

go out more live your life express your true self an dont let fear over come you you have to over come it and dont try to make depression a big part of your life theres alot to learn in this world

diamond r

I'm shy too, but as I get older I'm becoming more talkative and extraverted. But, just start by something simple by saying hi to someone at school and introduce yourself or go to someone in your class and say something like, I need to borrow your notes or something like that.

ms. bug

I know it's hard but when you're speaking to someone compliment them on something or talk about general stuff like current news and such.

wow. when i read this i thought of myself. i've always been shy... and i still am. just take little steps. start out by trying to get in the coversations. i used to just sit their listening to the covnersations that all my friends had, then one day i was walking with my friend ronnie and he asked me why i never talked... and he's pretty outgoing... and i told him that i'm just too shy... and he said that he was going to make me start talking in the conversations by asking me questions. so just include yourself next... once you start talking. start going places with them... like to the mall and whever you go.. i can say that actually getting involvd with them really helps. get to know them and just have fun... good luck and know you are a daughter of god and he will always love you... dont worry. all these things helped me....

♫amy♫

well, start off by saying hey im [your name here] then ask them things about them like, whats your name... constantly be complementing people. You know i used to be the dsame way.... but it was something that eventually i grew out off luckily but you need to take the first step....so next time you want to talk to someone, remember this ok!!!!

kenna

get out of your shell and socialize and do some exciting things.

dicovi

god i use to have this trouble just be youself ,next time say some thing random it works for me i'm kind of silly at the right times and quiet !!=)

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