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I always feel so alone, and it's hard to meet true friends when you enter the working world...?

  • I had three best friends, and we were so close for over 12 years. But after college two of them kind of faded into their own world and became very selfish. And the other one moved away (we talk, of course, but it's nice to have friends close by as well). I have quasi-friends whom I could hang out with if I wanted to, but I prefer meaningful friendships. And it's so hard to meet decent people in the working world. Even coworkers here are all about backstabbing and a$$-kissing so they can get promotions and raises, and it's hard to make real friends at work. I have a boyfriend, but I don't get to see him much, and I just feel so lonely and alone. I have nothing to go home to, and nothing to look forward to, and it's frankly quite depressing. Has anyone dealt with this and overcome it? Any suggestions?

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    Hiya Kati, I am fairly new here..I just discovered this today! I also feel very lonely at work as I cannot speak their language properly so my situation is a bit different. I live here with my hubby and the rest of my family is overseas.These days, if we make a new friend, try to be yourself and do not try too hard to hold onto the relationship otherwise it'll slip away. I personally am a lonely gal as I do not have many true friends, but the 1-2 I have I am very grateful to have them. Don't depend only from work to form real friends but look outside as well. Do you have a hobby you enjoy doing? Join a club or form one yourself to get to know others who share the same interest with you. I made some friends thru this method and it still works for me. I find that attending church is also a good start to find potential friends--it doesn't mean you have to become a Christian but when you are depressed, praying can help you too. If you have nothing to go home to, try getting a pet and loving it. I have a goldfish and he's always happy to see me. I still get depressed every now and then--homesick, missing my homeland but I try to cope the best I can with what I have here-support from husband (or in your case, your boyfriend which you may not see often but you can keep in close contact thru emails, phone calls, video chat). It is one of the hardest things to overcome I know...after so many years since my teens, I still feel 'alone'. The thing is to think that you are not alone++you never are..there are those who love you dearly (your family) and your friends who support you, and God/or the Creator(I am not a Christian) so I use these terms..remember that we are not alone! Reaching out will help a lot!

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Yes, I have dealt with it and still do at times. That when I go to my family. I mean i talk to them anyway but I know that whenever I feel lonely they will be there. I just moved here and havent met anyone my age and work with some really selfish people but I go home and sometimes enoy the quiet and time to myself and then at times i call up a family member or something. It will be ok and hopefully you are as fortunate enough to have family you can count on too.

Sarah K

I suggest to find some hobbies or activities. You cannot look to other people to amuse yourself. Figure out something that you have been wanting to do for a while and just go do it. The more activities you are doing, the more people you will meet.

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Awww.. im still in skool.. i wish tht doesnt happen to me when i start work n all.. i have nuthin 2 say but Good Luck xxx

MiMi

Kat, I can relate to what your saying. I'm not real hep to dating people from work. It can become complicated with all the rules now governing sexual harrassment. Look in your community for volunteer work, or join a group or club that caters to one of your hobbies. Or if you don't have a hobbie, find one. There are also single socials you can attend. Do whatever you can to get yourself out of the house more. Friends are not going to come knocking on your door. Good luck.

You have to let a friendship grow. Once you meet someone get to know them then once you get comfortable around them a friendship will grow. I'm sure not all your coworkers aren't all about backstabbing and ***-kissing. The best advice is to talk to everyone about something you KNOW you have in common. Just to be known.

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hi relax!breathe!dont worry!i understand ur problem!i hav a lot of friends but still here are times i feel lonely! the best way of making friends is meeting more and more people. the famly advice is gr8 but if u r nt that much of a family njoyin person then i think you should join some group. find people with similar interests. meet ur bf's buddies and get to know thhem. i think you might find some gud ppl among ur co-workers. join a dance group or go for music.and if you think you are lonely just drop by an orphanage or oldage home in ur vincinity!you will feel better and fuller!friends are not how much u see a person but how much they mean to you.i am loosing contact with my friends too but i still believe that i will find more.look around you and you will find many just like you!you can never be lonely!take weekends off and go swimming with your bf. join a salsa class with ur bf. go to self defense class and catch on the gossip with the ladies.talk to the ppl around. i am sure you have a neighbour or atleast some one in ur neighbourhood. go to their home to get some help of some kind or help them out.i hope you find frnds!best of luck!

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I'm pretty much in the same boat as you except I don't view myself as being all alone or being lonely even though I do live alone. I do my own thing, go wherever I want, whenever I want. I have family and friends that have a hard time catching up with me. The world has alot to offer, find things to do and you'll be surprised how much of your time it will occupy even it's if just going to the library. I can spend hours at the library, no hurry or rush about anything.

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