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Need help with a friend please. (a girls help would be better... but anyone can answer)?

  • In need of some advice please... I tried to keep this as short as possible. I tried figuring this out, but just need some help and advice please. I've been working with this one girl now, for almost nine months. for the first few months, we really never spoke to each other. Then in about Januar we starting talking more. She started texting me. Really don't know how she got my number, but kinda know, since she is a manager. Well we started hanging out, like going bowling as a group with friends. We started hanging out for a few weeks. then one day she wrote down the directions to her house and told me to come over sometime. well the same day she ended up taking me and showing me where she lived. Well after a few weeks of hanging out and talking for hours at a time on facebook, and texting, I started to like her more than as a friend. Well I got the nerver to ask her out. She turned me down, and stated that she just wanted to be friends. Well i was fine with that. Well then a couple weeks after that, I ended up working a very long shift with her, because we had bad weather, and lot of people didn't make it to work. Well she was gonna give me a ride home, but ended up staying later then expected, so she told me to just come home with her (she lives over 45 minutes away), and stay the night. Well i ended up staying 3 nights at her house, going to work with her and coming back... Well then after those three nights she acted like she was mad, and wouldn't talk much to me for about a week or so. Then she ended up talking to me more again, and then I ended up staying the night for three nights again, because she had takin me out of town, because I needed a ride. I don't know if she likes me. Now if we go out with friends, and we go out to eat, she always wants me to sit beside her. She looks at me, and at times I can feel her staring at me. Just yesterday, we went out with friends again, and went out for dinner. She wanted to get a dinner and us share it. She always wants me to come over. she will text me and ask me if I'm coming over. A few time, she as mentioned and ask if I wanted to move in..... if she don't want more than friends, this is kinda weird. I don't know what to do. I mean I still like her a lot, and I don't feel that it's right for me to keep going over there, knowing I like her still yet, and she don't know. But at times, I feel like she does know I like her. When we are together, we can laugh, we both get along very well. She always has a smile on her face when I come around. She always has this look on her face... and when I'm around she will talk a mile a minute. I know a lot about her. She is good friends with the store manager, and when they both work together, they will be together, then when I talk, they both look at me with a look on their face, and sometimes smiling. The store manager, will talk about me going over to my friends house all the time. And just today, I had asked for a ride home, and told her I will pay her. And her friend which is the store manger, asked me what will I give her for a ride home (meaning my friend). So I know she talks about me when I ain't around. She obviously trusts me to let me come over, and stay the night with her. I'm scared to let her know I still like her, because I don't know how she really feels, and I don't want to lose my friend. So could she really like me? What should I do? How should I handle this? I know what I want to do... but trying to see if there is a better way to do this... I really appreciate any help.....

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    as hard as it might be you should sit down with her and tell her how you feel anad ask her how she feels. if she decides she feels the same or differently you can go from there. if she is as nice a friend as you say she will understand and you can work things out. i dont really get the whole "move in with me but when you ask me out ill turn you down thing" but i guess its just the way things are with her. also maybe shes lonley andneeds someone or wants a companion. or she wants something else.......

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What the crap.... Either a) she likes you. For cryin out loud she asked you to move in b) she is straght c) she just wants to use u for u know what

Lauren

Wow, this woman is sending some mixed signals. It's pretty obvious she likes you, wanting you to be around so much to the point of possibly living together. But she may be afraid of commitment, which is why she may want to remain friends. I'm not sure if this is a good way for a relationship, but if you really like her, I think it's in your best interest to mention your feelings at least once. I recommend it in a low-key way, something not overly done so she doesn't get scared. Keeping your feelings bottled up can be self destructive and will damage a relationship if left alone long enough. For your own sake I would give it a chance. Maybe just ask, "Is there any chance of us being a couple?" and if she doesn't go for it, you may need to back off.

jadestarwolf

It sounds like she really likes you but doesn't want to admit it. I'm no good for advice there because I'm far too straightforward for this kind of situation. It can be dangerous to get too involved with a manager at your company though because if things take a bad turn in your relationship it could have negative effects on your job as well. Tread carefully.

I yam what I yam

Open communication is the key to any successful friendship or relationship. You need to sit down and talk to her and let her know how you feel. That is the only way you are going to get a straight answer.

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