I need a pen pal to learn Spanish.

Please help, I need advice on this "friend"? Why is she always putting me down?

• Hi :) Sorry if the following seems too long for you guys to read, but I feel as if I desperately need advice. So here goes. For starters, I am a seventeen-year-old high school senior. I'm your typical easygoing friend who is always called "sweet" and "kind" and "easy to talk to." I could be a little shy at times, but I'm outgoing most of the time and I love meeting new people. In the beginning of this year, I met this junior (let's call her D) in my anatomy class. It turned out that we both wanted to major in English, so we hit it off right away. I thought she was really nice and everything and I had a feeling that everything will be just fine for the rest of the year. But I was wrong. Not even a month passed and she was already grinding my last nerve. The first thing that annoyed me was that she called my two other friends idiots for making flashcards so they could study for a quiz. I don't understand how that was so idiotic but according it her, it was stupid. Later on, she began insulting ME. She began calling me an idiot and a dumba**, and always bragged that she was smarter than me even though she was younger than me. She bragged endlessly about how she has always had enough money to buy clothes from H&M and Acrobomie (however you spell it) and had enough money to buy expensive Coach bags and stuff. She bragged about how spoiled she was since she was the only child. Yet she had the nerve to complain about her mother and call her "horrible." One time we were taking notes in anatomy class and D was copying off of my notes because she couldn't see the whiteboard. (If she has enough money for clothes, why doesn't she have enough money for glasses?) I accidentally copied the notes down wrong, and I started erasing them. Since she was using pen, she began to get angry at me and called me stupid and said, "You're such an a**! Learn how to take notes!" I told her it wasn't my fault she used pen, but she ignored me and kept insulting me. She calls me an idiot, dumba**, and has even said that my clothing style is out of whack, even though everyone else had complimented my style and had said I looked pretty. But she insults my hair, my clothes, etc. I have very neat handwriting--everyone has always complimented me on it and had exclaimed that it seemed as if I printed straight out of a computer--but D has even found bad qualities in that too, saying it's not "perfect" like everyone else says. I have told my friends about her, and they dislike her right now. One of my friends "A" has even ended her friendship with D because D had stolen A's best friend away. When D and A ended their friendship, they had a huge fight, and D had insulted her and called her ugly and stuff like that. D has even shoved into her on campus when they passed by. D even insulted my crush, saying he was "handicapped" because he has a cleft lip. I really want to punch her sometimes, but she's the type of person you can't shake off! And just when I plan to give her the silent treatment, she begins to get all sweet again. How should I deal with her? Sorry it's long :/ I just need advice. Please help!

• Answer:

  I feel so sorry for you. Shes just jealous of you. Or maybe she has anger issues. Maybe you should tell your teacher cause it's obliviously isn't your fault. Sometimes at my school people call me names and I say thanks for the compliment ! So then they get aggravated cause it didn't make me mad. And tell her "ya know I know your jealous and lets face reality NOBODY likes a bully". Or of she says mean things about how you dress Or your hair says " thanks for the advice or thanks for the compliment " that gets other people at my school mad cause it back fired and if you don't want to try those things tell a teacher cause bullying Is a HUGE issue. Just don't let it get any worse ! Good luck tryin to get her to stop !!!!