My Girlfriends weight makes her unattractive?

dump her fat ***

There's nothing shallow about it. Her not taking care of herself (physically, hygenically, and appearance-wise) is a perfectly valid turn-off that stems from her personality. A person should want to at least put some effort into their appearance. It's not about impressing others, it's about self-worth.

Your girlfriend is depressed and needs to see a doctor end of story

Men are by nature visual and are more attracted by looks than women. So it is natural, but the key question is whether you can truly accept your girlfriend for who she is if she does not want to lose weight and she is fine with it. If it bothers you so much, then how is it possible that you can spend the rest of your life with someone you are not attracted to?

uh no. you love her on the inside but not on the outside as much. Both are important in a relationship. You might wanna talk to her because it's not healthy for her or your relationship.She plans on actually gaining weight.I know absolutely no one who plans on doing that. You aren't being shallow. just talk to her about what she's doing and what it means for your relationship.

I highly doubt that she is happy with the way she is. I think she may be depressed or very upset and eating a lot of unhealthy food is her way of dealing with it.

talk to her, ask why she is doing this, is she feeling down? i dont like myself so i wont go to the hairdressers 4 eg. and explain to her about making improvments dont say oh im finding it hard to feel attracted 2 u but ask whats going on. but if this is the way she wants to be your gonna have to love her for who she is or lump it. but dont like *** off on her bcuz that will break her.

"It feels like I'm dating my grandmother. Is this a normal feeling in a relationship?" "Is it normal at 25 years old to be turned off by the person that you will spend the rest of your life with?" No & no. I'm 25 and my guy is 27 and we have been together for over 9 years now. Our relationship is very happy, filled with love & strong sexual attraction. Your girlfriend is suffering from depression, and no matter what she says about being happy about being the way she is etc, i highly doubt she is happy & full of self-confidence. Rather it sounds like she has deep dietary & emotional problems and has simply given the battle in fighting them, instead medicating herself with food etc. Junk food can be very addictive to human mind as for almost our entire history we have evolved in environments where fats, salts & sugars were rather lacking and so our brains are geared towards hormonally rewarding us when we find and eat such foods. This is basically why we have an obesity crisis now, as we now live in an environment where such foods are not rare but extremely available but we still have the same brains that crave them. We now have to keep ourselves in check because our environment won't. A poor diet full of grease, salts & carbohydrates/sugars can really mess with your hormones though, creating depression & food addiction, which in turn can be a vicious cycle. You feel depressed because of the way you look, but eating what you want temporarily makes you feel better. But then the food makes you feel bad, your weight makes you feel bad, and so you again crave more junk food etc. Your girlfriend really needs to sort herself out. She needs to open up to you and you need to open up to her. If you hold back about the way you really feel, she will just continue to worsen. I know you want to be supportive of her, but right now you are just being supportive of her eating habits. She is no longer in control of herself. Only with true honesty can you really start to help each other. Facing up to the mess she's got herself in will be really hard, but the longer she lets this go on the harder it will become. Dietary-wise, the first emphasis should be on changing what she eats rather than cutting down on the calories, as her poor diet will be fuelling her depression, lack of energy and lack of libido problems. She needs to cut out all foods cooked in fats to high temperatures and processed foods. Start cooking proper home meals containing stuff like lean meat, green leafy vegetables & healthy carbohydrates. A healthy diet will give her much more balanced hormone & energy levels. She also needs to start doing exercise, as this will further help her energy & mood levels. Sorting out her lifestyle will really help with everything (feeling better about herself, tackling her inner problems, having more confidence & energy etc). Obesity isn't just a cosmetic issue, its a serious negative state of health and she needs to look after herself better not just for you but herself as well. She is addicted to unhealthy food, but this addiction is no weaker than if it was a drug addiction (and perhaps you need to face it like this).

She is unhappy. Overeating means not having a lot of joy in other areas of life, and looking for pleasure in food.