How can I let my Chess partner know just how much I like him?

Frankly, just be honest. Chess is an intimate game between serious players, so you are already sharing an intimacy necessary for him to take your feelings seriously, even if they are not reciprocated. You have a couple of options really. First, sound him out about relationships etc, see how he feels about relationships and dating in general at this time of his life. If he is sitll open to dating etc, then just tell him how you feel. If you do it as part of your normal chess then rinks routine, it may not be the best time. It could be considered part of normal banter during your evenings. Once you know he is open to dating, I'd suggest calling him up and asking to see him for coffee or dinner at a nice, but not overly romantic restaraunt. See how you like each other outside of the chess and drinks environment. If you still like him, ask him out agian and tell him honestly that you are falling for him and would like to try taking your friendship further into a relationship. If he IS down on himself, then don't be overly aggresive, just talk, tell him how you feel and what you would like to see happen, then ask his thoughts and feelings, then listen to what he has to say. If he says no, then thats that, just make sure to immediately close that door and repair your friendship. If he says yes, then great happy days. If he says 'let me think about it' don't feel bad, it generally means he's interested, but wants to decide whether it is the right thing to do or not. If he says 'let me think about it' tell him ok and that you will leave him alone without contact for a week. Tell him if he wants to talk earlier, to call you, but if not, ask him to be decided by 7 days time and tell him you are rebooking the restaraunt, or arrange ot go to coffee shop again and for him to meet you there (you can then call that day to confirm he is still attending). In situations like this, sounding out the object of you affection for their thoughts and feelings is the way to go. If oyu find they coincide with yours, then honesty is always the best policy.

Hello Anna; Chess is a wonderful game! If you are already at the point of going out for drinks, then why not ask him over for dinner, or perhaps, suggest some kind of outing ... most chess players have other hobbies. A museum, trip, or concert might be nice. Have you suggested a movie or a play. Chess players love coffee shops and good conversation. If you really are cunning -- take a look at the movie "Luzhin Defence" (PREVIEW BEFORE you decide if is a movie he and you might enjoy together) ... it is a tragedy but most love stories are. It is about chess and romance, but it is very syrupy and a hard-core chess player might find it a little silly. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0211492/ I don't want to burst your bubble but on behalf of men and chess players everywhere ... there is almost no chance he will ever figure out that you are dressing nicely for him. He will just assume that you like to dress nicely. Men and especially shy men (I speak from experience) can be very dense when it comes to relationship things! Often times you have to hit them over the head with an idea before they understand something as easy as romance. I think your chess partner is a very lucky man! Gens Un Sum! Bill P.S. Did you know that in some versions of the Tristan and Isolde Legand they fall in love while playing chess?

Girl... Chess men are clueless *LOL* They're like (board) game guys... Clue-Less. And girls interested in these type men usually have to make the first move. So you're just gonna have to "suck it up" and put yourself out there (no inappropriate meaning intended there, for those who will jump on that). But They Are Worth It - Gaming Guys Are The Best! I'd suggest to be direct, but be gentle so as not to "frighten" him off. Flirt ever-so-lightly with him. Rest your hand on his and tell him how much you enjoy your time together, both playing chess and socially. Let him know that playing with him has improved your game. When he comments on your appearance, reply by indicating that you remember he liked that color, that style, that item (whatever) on you before (i.e., "thanks, I remembered that you liked this dress last time I wore it" or "thanks, I know it's a favorite color of yours and I like it too"). When/if he puts himself down, remind him - while looking into his eyes, if you can be so bold - that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", if you want to be Really bold, you can add "and I have 20/20 vision". Have you asked him about his other interests? Shared any of yours? Bring up a current movie, play, event, exhibit (whatever) in your area. if he expresses interest then you can ask if he'd like to go with you. On his BDay, give him a card and a little gift, nothing too overwhelming though... that's pretty obvious... Heh... but then, I'm still single, so maybe you shouldn't go by my advice *LOL* Hope this helps - Good Luck!!!!

You might want to just come out and tell him. Guys that play chess probably don't have a lot of experience with women, so dropping hints is probably just gonna waste time.

Wait for him to move his ever growing Bishop near your Queen... thats a good sign!

Just tell him, he'll get over it.

Dropping hints is never a bad idea but also you could start convorsations and point them toward a more serious note and eventually about how you feel about eachother and maybe someday he will get it. Boys/men are stupid just give him a while :)

Invite the person you love to somewhere(Don't do that first, later) Ask questions like what do you like to do and etc (I can't think of anymore questions lol i have trouble myself talking to a new girl for the first time) Yeah what Geoff said

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