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What should I buy my new boyfriend?

I want to buy a new car but boyfriend adamently says no. I am not sure what to do...?

  • We have been together for a year and half. He is extremely frugal and doesn't make a whole lot of money. I however do. I like nice stuff (I am thrifty) and just got into a nice 4 bedroom house. I drive an suv that gets 175 miles per tank (yes you read that right). I am car shopping. My suv is old, rattles, its a Nissan with low miles but I am not the type of woman who needs to have a breakdown. I don't have time for that. Or the funds. I am looking at buying a new car, same auto expenses as what I paying now, but for three more years. $450 a month, less gas, less insurance. Apples to apples, I pay 650.00 a month auto expense driving the hunkajunk, it would be $650.00 for a 2012 car financed for 3 more years. It's a Hyundai and the warranty would be for 5 of those years. My boyfriend basically has said if I buy it, he won't marry me. But if anything happens to my current vehicle, he certainly won't pay for it. All my bills are on meeeee. He said he won't marry me without money in the bank for a nest egg. I am not about to get a new owner (married before to a man who liked to say no all the time) because men do not always have our best interest and don't mind if we as women don't have anything. I'm just saying. What should I do here?

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    Who cares what your boyfreind says. It's your money. buy the car if you want it. The reason your boyfriend doesn't support you is because he is selfish. he wants you to spend that money supporting him.

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buy what you need and tell your boyfriend to take a hike

if you can afford it, meaning all the money for it is in the bank and you won't have to use a credit card, buy it! or, get your current car looked at by an auto mechanic, the rattling may be a cheap fix. then consider finding a man who matches your financial preferences. if you can't agree on how to spend your collective funds now, you probably never will.

the more i see, the less i know

You're the one paying for it. He sounds like a jerk. You're the one making money here. I'm no car expert and definitely not a relationship expert, but if I had money to get a new car and treat myself I would do it. I'm like you, I can't do break downs, I would freak out lol, and it would put a damper on school.

Treece

The first thing to do is look for a different man or learn how to live with out one! This may not be a money issue as much as a control issue. When one person feels that the others reasoning is to be ignored- it is a warning sign. I will not tolerate any line that comes out as a test of a relationship. I do not see why you should either. It is manipulative and self serving. Then take another look at finances, buying a newer car might be a good idea. But maybe not a brand new one. Have you checked on how a new car will impact your insurance rates for example (and property taxes). But as I said the bigger problem is that man of yours! Get that item taken care of first, either you can have a dialog or you can't. If you can't find some one who is less controlling.

Old Man Dirt

Spend the money YOU earn any way you wish, and tell this clown he better tone down the threats or HE may be looking for a new place to live. (say it, and MEAN it) It's time for you to be a little more assertive. Stand up for your rights or your future marriage will SURELY fail...... BEEN THERE.......more than once.

been there, done that.

Do what you want buy what you need. If your boyfriend can't meet you halfway now how do you think it will be like in 5 years?

emma lynn

I think you have some valid points and of course if you can afford to buy a new car thats one thing (and I dont mean financeing iit. On the other hand using a car as an excuse NOT TO GET MARRIED? THAT IS TRUELY PATHETIC WHAT A SAD SACK OF sh it . If you are happy? with this guy? you do not sound like it. And interesting how your "nest egg" becomes his nest egg" so if you have no money then he will what leave? one more sad sack statement. Unreal if you ask me he likes your bank account. look in your heart and see what it tells you best of luck it may be time for a new sub and send mr sad sack on a hike

roger

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