Men and women "jobs" in the home?

I would do anything as long as I don't have to clean the toilet, that is gross.

Cooking needs to be done every day. It is a daily activity, like EATING. There are pots and pans and cutlery that need to be cleaned every day in preparation for the following day. Season is irrelevant because EATING is a daily activity. Groceries (food) must also be procured often because EATING is a daily activity. By contrast, gutters, lawns, and other outside work is not done every day. In fact people only their laws every two weeks in the summer. This kind of work is both infrequent and seasonal! You are getting the shytty end of the stick here. edit: If he gets off work so much earlier than you and expects you to do the grocery shopping and cooking then I would oblige him. Go shopping and stock up on Swanson's microwavable dinners. When you get home nuke a couple and sit back, in full relaxation mode. He will be climbing the walls within a week looking for real food, and he will go grocery shopping and help with cooking and cleaning up afterwards. Otherwise, just continue the strike until he caves in. Its just a matter of time; don't forget you hold ALL the cards because he wants something from you. Without your cooperation that 'something' he wants (a home-cooked dinner) won't materialize.

Anything that works for the couple. It's foolish to narrow it down to a "woman's job" and a "man's job", because that just puts restrictions on the couple. The couple should do what is convenient, what they agree on, and what they are good at doing. I'm so glad I stopped bothering with the dating world!

I don't think there is a man and woman's job. Personally I like to be in control of everything so I usually do all the shopping and cooking. I was just raised to be self sufficient so I am just more comfortable with it. It may sound crazy, but I feel uncomfortale being waited on, plus if you do it yourself it will be done right. My women have it easy.

Well I don't think gender has a place in the household chores. Splitting them up is fine, but I would be weary of a man who has 'women's work' and 'man's work'. What else does he apply to his thoughts on 'gender roles'? My fiance and I do chores as they come up. Sometimes I take out the trash and sometimes he does dishes. But I'd have a hard time loving him if he thought that dishes was my job as a woman. *shudder* :)

He knows it's not a woman's job, he just wishes it wasn't his job, so he's trying to put one over on you by picking the cool, seasonal work rather the daily drudgery. There are many ways you could play out this argument, including going on strike, only buying the foodstuffs you like at the store, offering him household services in return for financial recompense at the rate you would be paid at work, etc, etc... My own experience is that very little works in the household coercion stakes - you can try ultimata and then leaving him if he simply refuses, but it may be that if you want to stay with him, you are always going to have to pick up more than him - it's not fair, but that's my honest experience of 'housework refusers'!

I say the person that gets the hungriest should do the grocery shopping. :)

Do whatever is necessary when it needs to be done. Your bf should do at least some shopping for that night if you two have nothing to eat. Try to let the gender roles out of this and use common sense and courtesy. Also, do you have gutters and lawn at this time or are you living in a condo? *** Yes, I know where you live because you told me... that's why I said... at this time. ;-) And I mow my lawn and clean my gutters... but there's always stuff to be done around a house, plenty for the both of us.

It's good to divide the chores equally, but why must he bother assigning genders to them? You might be just as good as mowing the lawn as he is, after all.