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How to I become more outgoing?

How can I become less outgoing and more shy?

  • Long story short I've been outgoing for basically all my life (14 years), but I hate it. I'm only like this because my two older sisters are outgoing and I've always wanted to be like them. Now I'm in high school and I'm still trying so hard to be this outgoing, positive, super happy person all the time and it's so hard to pretend. I don't like being around people I never really did to be honest. I want to be more shy, but I don't want to just suddenly change and freak out everyone who is in my classes how can I do this?

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    You could say that you need to do some more reading since that's what you would rather do than to talk so much. Perhaps telling them that you are really getting into a certain book series would help you tell them that you wouldn't like to talk as much as you had in the past.

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You sound like me. I started working in retail and waiting on people in my parent's business when I was your age and I hated it. 20 years passed by and this constant talking to people was driving me crazy. To be honest, I have no real need to talk to anyone, if it hadn't been for this blasted habit. The only advice that I can give you is to uncouple yourself from your habit by ignoring your fear of being hostile. That's not to say that you have to act hostile, but if you suddenly become standoffish, your friends will consider you hostile. Risk it, before it drives you crazy. Withdraw from your normal social habits slowly and only keep the friends that you actually like. Remember, you need someone, so don't dump them all.

Ryunkin

u a stupid muthafucka, no offense but why would u want to become shy. i'm shy and i ****** hate myself for it. i'd give anything to be outgoing and talkative yo need to be more grateful that you can hold a conversation

BLACKMAN

Well, you know that hole in your face where all the sound comes out? I believe the first step to recovery from being 'way too outgoing' (also known as attention-whoreitis) is to shut that hole and keep it shut.

McWisenheimer

Well coming from someone that is that way. you just need to find activities to keep you busy, like hanging out at home or reading or online stuff like chatting etc. After awhile you'll isolate yourself from people without freaking them out.

austin_music_gal

Be careful what you wish for, you might get it. Being shy is a curse. I've been shy my whole life and I hate it.

McK

Just gradually keep your mouth closed more and more. Let other people reach out first and you can become more of a listener.

Rachel

LOL you want to be less outgoing and more shy? Do you know how many people would kill to have your personality traits?

Mitchell

Go hide in a corner, and when everyone forgets you exist, pop out at them. They won't remember.

chilsiy

just keep your mouth shut

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