How can I stop my leg/knee shaking?

How do I stop myself from Physicaly shaking when I talk to people it's really getting me down :(?

• I started seeing my school nurse because of self harm but I stoped going because I dont want to go in the first place and because when ever I talk to her I start physicaly shaking like my whole body trembills as though I'm freezing cold and I no matter how hard I try I can't stop I get really nervous when talking to her and I can't seem to speek and I can't look her in the eye and I get really sweaty palms. This dosent just happen with her but with other people too I can't look anyone in the eye and hate being alone with a small group of people unless it's my best friend ( even then somtimes I just find things akward , even If she dosent) I don't like to do things or talk to people incase I mess up or make an **** of myself. It can also just be small stupid things like if I'm in town and walk past a group of say people from my school I'm not friends with I get really self consious and I try make sure I don't do anything stupid like trip up or walk weird etc and I try look the other way and hope they don't see me Or even things as stupid as when I get off the bus I don't want to look stupid and try make sure I walk properly and not trip up but because I try so hard I always end up stumbeling looking stupid also this isn't a new thing iv been like this for about 5 years iv always been shy but it started in my last year if primary school and gradualy got worse as I got older it's at the stage where I dont even like talking to my own mum in case she judges me or makes a fool out of me ( she dosent do it to be nasty just as a joke but it really affects me ) also I'm not bullied or anythin,luckly because if I was I wouldent be able to cope ,I can't deal with it when someone takes the Mick out of me as a joke nevermind if they were bulling me :/ so how do I stop myself from shaking when I talk to people? Iv tryed just relaxing but I alway tense up again and I tryed breathing slowly but that didn't work ! if I can stop I might go se the nurse again so please help :(

• Answer:

  We don't have the right to just guess things. Print what you wrote and take it to your nurse if talking to her is too much for you to handle. She gets paid to help you. It could be social anxiety, it could be Asperger's Syndrome with is a form of Autism. Since you mention several times that you fear tripping, that suggest that you have some issue with walking, so maybe the Asperger's Syndrome is something to look into, but we shouldn't be guessing things. I would assume someone in your family is narcissistic by what you said. If you are into self harm the site To Write Love On Her Arms, twloha.com has a lot of information and help, there are tons of links there. Maybe if you call 1-800-448-3000, [email protected], they could help you, they have trained counselors. Sometimes it helps to talk to a stranger. It seems like you have had some kind of trauma in your life, something is the trigger for that trauma, but you didn't give us enough to work with. It really isn't fair of us to just guess. Joyce Meyer has a new book called Power Thoughts and in it she says she had to learn to do stuff afraid. So Do it Afraid, if you have to, but print your question for your school nurse. Peace be with you.